When to tell people?

[PrincessScrumpy]

I'm five weeks pg tomorrow and I'm so excited it's really hard not to tell everyone. My mum and dad and pil know but my friends don't and I know I should hold off at work - but there are 3 others pg at work (including my boss) and I want to join in the chats.

I loved the secrecy with dd1 and didn't even tell parents until 8 weeks. Don't know why I'm so impatient this time!

Help, how can I keep my lips sealed and when should I reveal all?

Many congrats on your pg.

It is entirely up to you depending on what you are comy with. I have a rather complicated obstetric history and so waited till after 20 weeks with baby 2. Baby 1 - told all family on day I got a positive. I was naive back then. Many people seem to wait until the 12 week scan has confirmed all is ok due to risk of miscarriage in 1st tri.

I really sympathise - I'm nearly 12 weeks and have told a few close friends and my parents but my husband is quite superstitious about wanting to wait till after the 12 week scan in case anything goes wrong. He's probably simply in denial I'd have told everyone by now, especially as I had a scan at 9 weeks and there it was, heartbeat and everything, and I'm of an optimistic disposition and think people would hardly be anything other than nice if something did go wrong. But it is DH's baby too, grr. I feel 5 weeks might be too early for general broadcasting - though everyone's different. would be interesting to hear what others have done?? Good luck!

I've always waited until 12 weeks. This time (#4) I was all set to tell at Christmas (about 8 weeks) especially as I'd seen a heartbeat etc on an early scan. However, I totally chickened out! I think partly that is due to the fact that I know some family will be disapproving!

I think it's totally up to you. I know people who've told early and people who've told late. If you want to share the news then share it!

I was in the exact same position as you! I had colleagues who were pg and it was so hard to not contribute to baby chats! I also desperately wanted to find out as much as I could about things like their experiences of morning sickness etc. I wouldn't be surprised if they guessed anyway because I probably wasn't too sutble in handling my ms and asking questions! But I didn't tell. I did tell my boss, though, because I wasn't exactly on top of my game (despite my best efforts) workwise due to tiredness, headaches and ms. She was very understanding and I felt a lot better letting her know.

I think it is up to each person to decide when and who to tell for themselves - it's what feels right for you and your partner that's the most important thing. My own personal rule for telling before the 12 week mark was that I told people who's support I would really value if anything went wrong. So I told family and some close friends, as I knew they would probably be the ones I would tell if anything went wrong anyway.

Congrats on your pregnancy!

i told my parents immediately. then MIL and SIL and 2 best friends at 16 weeks. the rest of the crowd after 20 weeks. my bump did not start showing until 20 weeks+... these are personal choices. i am very superstiticious and just didn't want to tell people.

Ah, you're obviously not an infamous tippler like me lilly13 :) I have been in hiding for weeks trying to avoid too many situations where I'll obviously be not drinking. Am also infamously healthy so the antibiotics excuse isn't going to cut much ice!

I always told everybody else as soon as I knew.
I think I would have been fine (not too upset) if the pregnancies went pear-shaped and I had to announce a miscarriage (or worse). In the event, I never had bad pregnancy news to give out, though (the PGs all went well enough).
If you don't feel confident about "everybody" knowing your troubles, if you think you might want to deal with that privately, then better to keep quiet a lot longer.

I told parents and close friends quite early on. As the weeks went by, I told more and more and after the 12 week scan, we went fully public. I was very positive that everything was going to work out (and still am at 28 weeks) though. I know a lot of people hold off in case something bad happens, but anyone who knew before I was 12 weeks were people I would count on as my support network.

My boss figured out I was pg at 9 weeks. I was having trouble coping with all day nausea, so having a little understanding from her really helped. If I have a second pregnancy and have a tough time, I'd have no problem telling work early - job's busy and risky enough at the best of times!

I go along with telling people who you would want to know if you had a mc early (for me sister and parents) but everyone else after a scan.

Stupidly though, I saw my family last weekend and didnt tell them, and we are going to pil this weekend, and I am another notorious drinker so it's going to be very obvious unless I can somehow stay under the radar, so I am a little cross with myself for not telling my sister when I saw her.

Ho hum.

I am 7 weeks and have told parents and a few friends/colleagues. Telling PIL this week, then after that I'm not too bothered who knows. I just don't want close family to hear it from anyone else. I don't really care about people knowing if I mc, it's just a fact of life and obviously there's no guarantee after the 12-week point that it won't happen. Have you told more people now PrincessScrumpy?