Partner wants out

[jm0910]

Finding things a bit hard at the moment and not sure if there is anyone to talk to on here about it but my partner has decided he doesn't want to be a part of the baby's life (i'm due in May) and am just feeling so emotionally all over the place, especially as he already has a 7 year old daughter (from a previous marriage) who he is a fantastic dad to and i just wanted him to be the same great dad to our baby. Sorry to sound morose i just feel a bit isolated and as i'm 22+5 it's probably some of my hormones buzzing around. Anyone to talk to on here?

ER, I don't think it's your hormones making you miserable if your partner has abandoned you, your unborn baby and the dreams you had!

Very very hurtful. Why has he decided this? Poor you.

yeh i guess most of it is the situation rather than the hormones. Well it wasn't planned so we've had to talk things through and see how we both feel and i wanted to continue the pregnancy but all the while he said that he didn't want to be a dad again, so now this is his decision to walk away and it's just so heart breaking.

Hi jm0910. I'm in a similar situation. 21+5. Going it alone by the looks of it, as FOB is 'not ready' to be, well, FOB. So disappointing, hurtful and worrying when we're pregnant and in need of being nurtured. Hope you've got some lovely friends and family to help you through this. Lean on them. They will support you and tell you how wonderful you are. You need people like that. Hugs. x

Thanks Queenofthehill, yeh i have got family that have been great and i haven't gone to friends for help yet but i'm hoping when i do they will be there as a support. Yeh i just want to be nurtued, you're right and when i still see him i want to be in his arms so much and just want him by me every step of the way because he was my best friend as well as my partner, i was or am very much in love and it's so hard for someone to turn their back. I hope you manage to get through things as well and get the help you need.x

If he didn't want to be Dad again he should have taken more care not to be!! He is irresponsible to have walked away, and I hope he will support you in other ways. But you wanted your baby, and hard as it sounds, I think in the longer run you will be a better parent as the single loving Mum of a loved and wanted baby than putting up with someone who resents the poor child. No baby deserves that!
Concentrate on friends and family who will welcome your child.

yeh I will do, thanks Blu. Right no more feeling sorry for myself! I'm off to bed, thanks for listening to me and talking :) x

In the end, babies are the best things to celebrate.

I'm really sorry your partner let you down

His loss!

That's so hard, but remember this is about him and his fear and need to control his life, not a reflection on you. We will feel so privileged when our babies come along, and it is such a shame they will be missing out on that. Good luck to you, too x

Kind of same boat. Was dating a guy this past summer. It ended because it frankly was not working - we ran into each other on Halloween and well ... here I am.

I have not heard from him since generally nor when I texted him with the test results. He already have 3 kids (we are a bit older) and he has from the get go made it clear he wants no more.

Guess I am going at it alone. But its a shame he can't even respond to the test results and have a dialogue.

They say women are compicated.

i wish you all the best of luck, my partner is great but if he wasnt id just make sure i gave the baby twice as much love ?(if thats possible) and make sure the fob knows what an amazing thing hes missing out on, they are a waste of space anyone can make a baaby but it takes a real man to be a dad, i take my hat off to all single mums, just think- you will get all of the love and cuddles from your baby,good luck x