Anyone else feel detached? 36+4

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Our baby (dc1) is due 3 weeks on Friday. I'm drinking raspberry leaf tea, getting braxton hicks, have a nursery full of pram/cot/bedding and a half-packed hospital bag. Even have two dates with other mums-to-be lined up. BUT it somehow doesn't feel real! Don't know if it is some sort of denial about childbirth/new motherhood or fear of sth going wrong so not wanting to get my hopes up, or just cos pregnancy is so long that I still feel it'll never end. Am I weird or does anyone feel the same? I just think I'll feel big and nauseous and tired forever, but that nothing will actually happen.

Yeah, I understand how you have been feeling. I'm 34 weeks and sort of feel like I've been pg forever, but at the same time can't believe time is nearly up and I can't quite understand/beliueve the logic that soone a baby will come from me! I'm also petrified of birth and so am having complete denial that it will ever happen IYKWIM. I've had a tough pg in that I've been off work pretty much since day one for various reasons that I won't go into. I feel like I've forgotten what it's like to walk at a normal pace/not be exhausted or feel sick most of the time. I sort of feel detached that I can't believe it's all happening to me and I'm not sure what life will be like in a couple of months. I'm vey scared about it all but then I keep thinking I'm scared when I start a new job etc, and that it's a good thing. Oh, and I understand your point on almost not wanting to believe it's going to happen incase something goes wrong - I had a mc last year and keep trying not to get my hopes up as I worry something could go wrong (although this has got better over time as I've progressed in pg). I think for me that's a protection thing to try and not get too hurt if something did go wrong (although at this stage I would be compeltely devastated). Apologies for rambling message.

TOTALLY! Everyone else at my NCT class goes on about how excited they are about meeting their baby, and I'm just in a daze thinking "What baby? I'll be pregnant forever. Tra la la...!"

i completely felt the same with my first child i tried and tried to get it to sink in but it just wouldnt.

and thenhe was bor and i dont think it sank in until he was 9 months as i was so tired and busy i didnt have time to process it!! and then it had been so long that it just kind of felt normal.... i am a weirdo!

this time i have been complaining, feeling bored, fed up again as if it will never end. i dont think it has sunk in this time either properly... the idea of a baby but not a real, breathing, screaming, bundle of loveliness!

go with it and dont worry about it, you kind of just get on with it, when they are born it moves you more than you can imagine
xxxxx

Hopefully it's normal! I'm 37+1 and feel similarly - can't really believe there's actually a baby in there. Our hospital bag is still only half packed and haven't written a birth plan yet, and although i have a huge long "to do" list it's mostly stuff like getting a massage rather than the stuff I probably should be doing. Oh and I will be seriously surprised if the nesting thing kicks in - at the moment it's extended to doing the washing up a bit more often than I used to. I'm not yet sick of being pregnant and hoping to get at least a week or so of purely selfish maternity leave before the actual baby arrives!

Hmm I'll probably never feel ready (though that said just watch me go weeks overdue and be crawling up the walls begging her to come out!). Getting lots of tightening and period like pains today so should probably at least finish filling hospital bag just in case...

I am expecting DC3 and feel a bit like that myself, didn't with the other two though.