Yay......and Oh Shit

[lenak]

So we've been TTC DC2 since April. After a week of being convinced I'm pregnant and a negative test on Wednesday, I've tested again this morning and it's positive so YAY!

However, I'm beginning to think nature has a wicked sense of humour. If this pregnancy works out, I will be due mid September so going on Mat leave at the end of August.

The end of August is when my Line Manager, whose job I'd quite like, retires. It also means the team I manage is probably going to be left leaderless, or at least with a novice leader for a few months.

Of course, I knew timing was going to be an issue but I figured I would leave it in the hands of the gods so to speak (I'm a great believer in everything happens for a reason). I just can't believe the timings have actually fallen so that we will both be leaving at the same time.

Oh - and DD1 is a September baby and this one will be due about two weeks after her birthday!

Oh well - December is obviously our lucky month when it comes to conception. I'm just sitting here now, drinking my only cup of caffeinated coffee I can drink today [sob] (am a coffee addict) and contemplating the big wheel of fate and what it has in store for me.

Has anyone else had this kind of 'Oh Shit' timing and how did it work out?

Congratulations! I don't have the work timing issues, but just wanted to say, my 2nd is due about the 31st of August and my 1st was born on the 27th.

December is also a lucky month in this house.

Enjoy the coffee, I'm off to make myself a filtered Decaf (just started loving the stuff and now I can't drink it).

I'm sure work will sort itself out but in the mean time try not to worry and enjoy being pregnant. I am grinning though the nausea and fatigue as I'm determined to not let it get me down.

I've come to the conclusion that there is no good time to have a baby, so happy acceptance is the way forward! Huge congratulations. :)

YAY! Congratulations! All the best. x :)

Thanks both.

DH asked me a couple of months ago if I wanted to stop trying for a while because of the timing thing.

I said no because if we did, it could still take 12 months plus to get pregnant when we started again and I didn't want that kind of age gap. I wanted to leave it to fate.

I am really happy and can't stop smiling (although I had terrible morning sickness with DD so I am not looking forward to that possible happening again), but am not looking forward to telling my boss!

Congratulations!

Is there ever a right time to get pregnant...? Don't worry too much about it, you'll never know what might happen! We were ttc when I was told that my company was going to be closed down and I was going to be made redundant. We decided to continue ttc anyway... Nothing happened, then I finish work and -bang- get pregnant! Four months of job hunting with no luck and growing tummy, then I actually managed to find another job at 5 months pregnant! Still can't believe my luck. Yes, it's only a 4 month contract, but right now that's perfect.

If I were you, I'd try and apply for your boss's job anyway, no matter what! You might be pleasantly surprised at how some companies don't mind people being pregnant if they have been/are doing a good job!

Good luck with it all!

OMG lenak I could have written your post!

My boss is looking to go part time in her role pre-retirement starting from september, gradually handing handing over lots of her responsibilities, salary and hours to me.

Tis a fab job and I know I could do it, especially as she wants to stay at the organisation for a year or two to give her a chance to "keep her hand in", so she'll be there to help me.

So I told her I was really up for it before Xmas. But got a BFP on NY day! Baby due in September!

I don't want her making plans for something that won't happen cos I'll be on MAT leave BUT I don't want her to bin the idea completely as I want the job and the PG may not progress anyway (I've had a few little bleeds already ).

So I'm with you on the "oh shit" timing and I'll raise you an "oh shit" because my boss acutally thinks- and has told the CEO- I'll be taking over her some of her job when in fact (hopefully) I'll be on MAT leave!

MistleToad - scary isn't it. I keep having conversations with my boss about handover and how he needs to start involving me with some of the things he does that aren't directly related to my area of work (he is head of service over four different areas, one of which I currently line manage).

He also keeps reassuring me, when I have a crisis of confidence over doing his job, that I will be fine.

To be honest I think I am more concerned about leaving the team without a manager or at least with a new manager for 7 or 8 months. I can argue that even if they gave someone else the head of service job, the team would still be in the same position as giving me the head of service job and then filling mine - it will still be a new manager.

All I can do is prepare the team, in terms of procedures etc as best I can.

I just keep repeating to myself that "everything happens for a reason" - lets just hope fate knows what it's doing.

My emotions at the minute are kind of like this:

LOL at all those emotions!

Sadly, you just can't plan these things and I think really a new baby trumps a new job any day !

hi ya.

Congratulations. I fell pregnant 6 weeks after my deputy manager (i'm the nursery manager). During our absence soemone acted up and i used my keeping in touch days to provide support and keep my hand in.

Not sure what your job involves but i wrote a very detailed folder or just about anything needed and it helped the team alot.

Good luck

not job related but... been ttc for 2 years and after m/c earlier this year fell pg this june, DH found out he was posted to Scotland 3 months after bfp!! AND has to do 6 month tour in Afghan, so not the greatest of timings really but hey ho!!!!

I think like you said sometimes these things just happen and you just have to go with it and it will work out great I am sure!

I am currently covering a promotion maternity leave role and had to tell my boss I was also pregnant so was a difficult conversation but he took it well and I will stay a week and do a handover then im off!

New baby definitely trumps job - there will be job opportunities in the future, but only one chance to get my coveted 3.5 - 4.5 year age gap

sam congrats on the pg. Which part of the military is your DP in? My SIL is a forces wife - I really admire you all - I don't think I'd cope if DH had to leave for 6 months at a time.

It's starting to sink in now - am very excited.

BIL and his new wife are due to have a baby girl in May, so they will hopefully be really close and grow up together.

lenak DH is with RAF attatched to Royal Marines, am used to him being away, he went away when DS was 6 months, this one will only be 6 weeks this time though but thats the chance and choice you make when you marry a Forces man!! Can't whinge about it, just get on with it. It will be easier this time round as we have moved back to my home town so have family around to support me.