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Just took HPT and pregnant

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loulou1982 · 03/01/2011 20:48

Hi everyone. I've just taken a HPT and found out i was 1-2 wks pregnant. I was over the moon when I found out and called my boyfriend straight away. Unfortunately he wasn't as happy as I thought he would be and that upset me a lot. This will be my first baby but he already has a 3 year old from a previous relationship. He said he was shocked because i was on the pill and thought it was too early to start having a baby as we've only been together 6 months. He said he is scared that the same thing will happen as it did in his last relationship, break up, weekend dad etc. I said it wasn't fair to base our relationship on his last and that I thought he'd be happy. I don't really know what to do or say to him now as I want to keep the baby. The reason I was so happy is because i love him and he loves me. Sorry to spill my guts but I don't know who to talk to now :(

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onadietcokebreak · 03/01/2011 21:49

loulou1982 Mon 06-Dec-10 20:44:32
yes i'm afraid so never really thought or looked deeply into pregnancy until now and having settled down with my man I've been starting to feel broody and well, this happened so I'm very new to all of it

BooBooGlass · 03/01/2011 21:50

If you've had a positive test today you're not even late then are you? Why did you feel the need to lie? And not even namechange? Because you know you've done something terrible. Again, you idiot

onadietcokebreak · 03/01/2011 21:51

And for the record Im not a troll hunter or even one to normally search posters but your OP smelt off to me.

You really should be ashamed that you have trapped a man into being a father. I suggest you think really carefully about what you are going to say to him as lies and deceit do not make a good relationship

thisisyesterday · 03/01/2011 21:51

so... what's the story then OP?

you were either trying for a baby and BOTH aware of the fact

or,... you came off the pill and were trying, and the reason he is so shocked is because he didn't know

dufduf · 03/01/2011 22:05

I'm shocked and saddened at the turn this post has taken - the more trusting side of my nature wants to wait for the OP to come back and explain herself before passing further comment....but it doesn't look very good tbh.

Time to be honest loulou, you'll get lots more support if you are.

onadietcokebreak · 03/01/2011 22:08

I suggest she namechanges and just posts with more honestly in future.

Mumsnetters are a very welcoming bunch overall regardless of the truth.

RoadCraftGuru · 03/01/2011 22:12

Loulou, you are in a mess here. It does look, from other posts by you on other threads, as if you have done something pretty foolish but if you are indeed pregnant then you need as much help as you can get.

I'd agree that you may well get some good advice here if you continue to post (or namechange and "start again"!). You'll probably get some tough talking too but it's only words and none of us are perfect.

How much of the full situation does your mum know?

cocoachannel · 03/01/2011 22:18

Come clean OP and get the advice you really need.

annh · 03/01/2011 22:31

This makes no sense at all. You posted beginning of Dec about having tested then because you were two weeks late? Obviously you weren't pregnant then but if you haven't had a period since, you are now more like 5 weeks pregnant? On the other hand, if you HAVE had a period, you weren't late at all when you tested today. You say here you were on the pill, on other posts that you have come off the pill. No wonder your boyfriend is not happy, does he actually know the truth or just whatever version of events you have told him?

LittleWhiteSnowWolf · 03/01/2011 22:50

Sigh...

onadietcokebreak · 04/01/2011 12:58

I do wish the op would return and clarify

fallingandlaughing · 04/01/2011 17:13

Unlikely OP will return now surely. A very unfortunate situation.

However I have to take issue with those who say the pill is 100% effective. I am 12 weeks pregnant. Was taking the pill, hadn't missed any. Fortunately I am in a LTR and we are happy, were planning to start trying soon anyway. But the pill did let me down (albeit after 17 years of reliability).

Tootlesmummy · 04/01/2011 17:20

That is a horrible thing to do to the guy as if he didn't want children then she's lied to him and put him into a position where he may now have a second child which he did not want.

And telling her mother before speaking to he partner is wrong as well as she's making decisions before speaking to him.

I doubt the OP will be back, I think women who do this sort of thing are nasty.

cocoachannel · 04/01/2011 17:28

She'll reappear under another guise soon enough. And I hope she does- not for an explanation, but because I think she genuinely needs some support and advice looking at the comments she has posted on this and other threads.

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