pregnant and have a 5 month old

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Hiya, would just like your thoughts please,worldly advice, as I dont want to tell my family!
Anyway, I have a 2 year old, and a 5 month old. I have just found out I am pregnant again (about 5 weeks).
It wasnt planned, and I know we should have been carefull! But we have hardly been talking over the past few months, never mind anything else. So a few weeks ago, we were drunk and he said he didnt come inside me!?
And here I am today, not knowing what to do?
My heart is saying yes, keep the baby. I feel as though we could cope with another one, even though it will be very stressfull with the age gaps, and money situation.So my head says no way! It could totaly ruin our relationship after the stress of the last baby.
I told my partner last night and he totaly freaked out. He doesnt want it and says we couldnt cope.
I did get a little SPD in the last few weeks, but not that bad.
However, the past week I have had a bit of pain in my pubic bone again ( not sure if possible this early/ or still not recovered?)
Anyone else have very small age gaps with 3 kids? Do you cope. Help !!!

Sorry, meant to say SPD in last few weeks of my last pregnancy.

I am in the same situation. IMO if you were to not keep the baby you would look at your other two and always wonder.

If you were to have this baby, what support could you get? e.g. partner, parents, in-laws, Homestart (google them - they help people with kids under 5), paid help.

If you feel you could cope with a third, it sounds like you can. However, you need to have your partner on board. Give him a few days to let the news settle, then discuss again.

I guess the advantage of having a third so close together is that they would play together after a few years, and you'd be (possibly) out of the workplace for a shorter period of time (if that is one of your concerns). On the downside, you'll clearly be exhausted and have no time for yourself for a couple more years. That said, in the grand scheme of things perhaps you can handle that idea.

Whatever you choose, take your time to your decision - your GP might be able to refer you to pregnancy advisory service to help you look at all aspects. But if your heart says yes (which is what you yourself say), I think that is what you need to listen to. The practical things can possibly be overcome with support, sacrifice, humour etc. Hope this helps.

yes SPD can kick in very early!! My DS was 8 months when I was pregnant again and I was back on crutches by 12 weeks. I ended up having twins so had 3 kids under 15 months, now they are 2 and DS is 3 im 22 weeks pregnant with another set of twins but the SPD so far is manageable and I think thats cos I left it longer this time.

Good luck, its hard work having them close together but good fun too!!

It sounds as though you feel you could cope with a third child but that your relationship might not? Has your partner said you should terminate, or is it more that he just freaked but will calm down? Will you be able to discuss it again?

Getting some proper impartial advice would be really helpful to you now as another poster said.