my wife is 9 weeks (approx) and has lost weight. is this normal?

[johnnyd1]

My wife has gone through a lot in this first trimester. bright red bleeding, although not loads and was told the hospital were calling it a threatened miscarriage. however the 2 scans so far have not shown any probs whatsoever, especially the last scan. she is constantly sick or retching and her only food is burger king or cheese sandwiches (although she doesnt keep these down at times either). now she is losing weight... is all this normal? she still has a noticable bump and her breasts have started to grow

I had really bad sickness last time and lost loads of weight. If she can't keep anything down she should go to docs and get checked over. It's awful feeling like that the whole time.

I found tiny bits of food constantly was the way to go.

I have been pregnant 3 times once with horrible sickness and all 3 times have lost weight in the early days.
If she is feeling very bad talk to the midwife as there is such a thing as sever morning sickness but also like harassed said tiny bits of food constantly can help the sickness.

Unfortunately it is possible. I was really ill in my first trimester and weighed less at 16 weeks pregnant than I did before I fell pregnant (Even with a bump!)

Harassed is right - eating tiny amounts constantly really helps and don't worry about it being junk food - calories are what count at this stage. She should try and eat anything that she feels like (I lived on plain jacket potatoes and cheese). If she can't keep anything down (Even liquid) she needs to get to a doc though...

Good luck - hopefully it will pass soon...

I lost half a stone in the first 9 or 10 weeks every pregnancy (three of them). I think it's quite normal, and the baby won't suffer from it at all.

In a way it's reassuring after a threatened miscarriage that her pregnancy hormones are high.

With any luck, the sickness will ease off over the next few weeks (doesn't for everyone though).

thankyou all - i will see how she is over the next few days. she's okay in herself but ive never seen anyone want to vomit so much (there again this our first so its all new). she's not off her food and says she'd love to have water but there's a funny taste to everything apparently which puts her off a lot of stuff

It's pretty normal. I stayed the same weight but had no morning sickness and ate loads, so if she can't face eating and throws up a lot then she probably will lose weight. I agree she should contact her midwife or GP if concerned though as really severe sickness and weight loss can need hospitalisation and a drip.

Also agree that calories are most important, especially if she can stomach a prenatal vitamin so junk food, sugary drinks, whatever floats her boat really.

Hope she feels better soon.

I know what she means about the water. The hardest thing for me was to find a liquid I could tolerate. For me it was Nestea Red Berry Drink! Hope she finds something.

Johnny, bless your heart for looking after her so well. Losing weight isn't necessarily bad for the baby - babies are quite tough - but the main thing is just to keep her as comfortable and nourished as possible. It is good to hear she isn't off her food completely, but perhaps you could try to tempt her with a wider range of food?

I hear her about the water too. The only one I can drink at the moment is Evian because it doesn't taste vile. The funny taste is normal too. Glamorous, this pregnancy lark, isn't it?!

Johnny have you got any pregnancy books to read up on things like this? I can recommend What To Expect When You're Expecting.
Hope your wife feels better soon.

I had very bad sickness (hyperemesis) and at 9 weeks I had lost over a stone in weight. I was slim when I conceived so I didn't have this stone to lose and my bones started poking out! All I can recommend is that you try to get her food - anything that she can tolerate will do, if you are in this condition, eating healthily is not a priority, the priority is getting any food that the body can tolerate. Hyperemesis doesn't harm babies. She may be able to suck a small ice cube in order to get some fluids. You can also try carbs like ready salted crisps - I don't usually like them, but could tolerate them when pregnant.

I lost about 8 kilos in the first 12 weeks of my first PG - I wasn't throwing up either, but was overweight to start with. Hope your DW is on the mend soon.

I feel for you as I too suffered from Hypermesis. I was sick every day, even from before I done preg test right up to about 18 weeks.I'm 28 weeks now and I'm 5lb lighter that I was pre-pregnancy.
I declined the offer of medication from the GP. My diet wasnt the best, i found coca cola helpful in keeping my sugar levels stable. she prob wont be up to big meals so plently of snacking is the way to go. little and often as they say.

My wife definitely got a little lighter in the first month or two, didn't seem to mean any problems. I think that, though baby is very tiny and light at this stage, a lot of energy is being used getting ready for later. Sounds like yours has had a tough time - hope all goes well.

I would recommend offering lots of different food though. You never know what will turn out to be bearable. Also, she may be able to enjoy eating some things that she can't necessarily cope with the cooking smells of. DW didn't lose her love of onions but I had to cook anything that used them.

I lost 5kg in my first trimester. Drs weren't in the least worried.

I switched to cordials and tonic water as I also couldnt stand water once I fell pg. Try to get her to eat the second she wakes up in the morning.

Different things work for different people so just play around to find what works for her. Also make sure she is getting a multi vitamin and her folic acid.

I lost 2 stone in the first two months with my second child and a stone this time, I feel so sick I can't eat much at all and the weight just drops off. Its fairly normal to be honest to lose weight when you're that sick. It didn't cause me any long term problems, once you're over the sickness you're appetite increases rapidly!

johnnyd does your wife post on here? Would be interesting to hear from her, it sounds like she's having a very eventful pregnancy so far

I lost weight in both of my pregnancies (with DD1 I lost more than 1 stone). I was sick always until 22-23 weeks. I only started to put on weight after 25 weeks. Both my babies were weighting between 8 and 9 pound when they were born. didn't do them any harm...

has your wife talked to the GP about the sickness? I was for a short time on medication as I was not able to keep food down anymore. I wasn't very keen on taking this stuff but it made life bearable again. also, one of my GPs does acupuncture which also helped with the sickness. maybe this is a route you could explore???

It's normal, but understandably worrying. Really, though, your wife is still very early in her pregnancy, and there's plenty of time for her sickness to settle and her to gain the weight she needs to. With DD I gained nothing until 20 weeks and was fine.

I lost 20 pounds in first trimester. NOTHING stayed down :(

Have, uh, more than made up for that now

my wife was referred into the hospital yesterday morn by her GP, with hyperemesis. she had a ketone count of plus four! blood pressure and temp are fine. she is still in. they have so far given her 2 types of injected anti-nausea 'cures', neither of which seem to be working as yet. she now seems more herself and apparently the ketone count has come down to plus 2/3 which is good. they wont let her home until she can take food/drink without bringing it back. i know she is in the right place but am just hoping now that her and our (9 + 2) baby are going to be okay

She is in the best place for now.

I was admitted in my first pregnancy with dehydration and keytones ++++. It really did help. The drugs helped me get some sleep and once the cycle of trying to keep liquid down, bringing it back up etc. was stopped I did start to feel better.

The vomiting didn't stop completely for me but the time in hospital on a drip made me a bt stronger and able to cope so that when I got home I was able to keep liquids down and then bit by bit I was able to keep some food down.

It was also some comfort to know that I really WAS ill and that it wasn't all in my head or me just being weak and unable to cope with pregnancy.

Hope she feels better soon.