33 weeks and MW appointment cancelled. None until I am 38 weeks! I am panicking! Please help!

[CrazyChristmasLady]

Was suppose to have MW today. I am almost 33 weeks and saw her 4 weeks ago. She was adamant she wants to see me after the receptionists last time told me to see the doctor at 16 weeks which means I have seen my MW twice in 33 weeks of pregnancy.

Due to weather appointment was cancelled. Was then told next appointment is 17th January! I will be almost 38 weeks and DS was born just after this time. To me it is not good enough that I am expected to wait with no checks at this late stage of pregnancy. I have a consultant appointment on 5th January to discuss my birth after a previous forceps and 3rd degree tear birth. I really really wanted today to go over my rough plan with my MW (who is fantastic and supportive) as I am also worried that the consultant is going to dismiss my plan and possible senarios and outcomes.

I have been told I can see my doctor if I am worried. She wasn't there today and has no appointments until 10th January. I can try and phone first thing in the morning to get an appointment for that day (I loathe doing it, it is going to be a nightmare trying to get one but it seems it is my only choice).

My MW is at the childrens centre 1 morning a week, that is it. I asked if I can leave a message for her to phone me so I can at least speak to her and they said they can't do that as they won't see her. She told me last time she isn't allowed to give out her mobile number (some people on here suggested asking for that, as that is what they have). I have no way of contacting a MW. My surgery tell me to go to the childrens centre, the childrens centre tell me to ask the surgery.

It is a complete fucking shambles and I am sarting to get worried because of the birth I had last time. I am allowed to have an elective c section but I am keen to avoid this but if I can't talk to anyone about it, I am getting so worried I am thinking about just doing it (even though I don't want to). I have to give them my decision on the 5th which is why I want to discuss my plan first!

I am freaking out!

i would go back to the gp or childrens centre and ask for the phone number for the mw manager. that usually gets people to sit up and listen, id then phone the manager and explain how upset you are and see if they can get you in somewhere else with this midwife or with another midwife. thats what their manager is for. and trust me i know the system and the manager can do wonders.

I'd call the hospital and ask to speak to the Supervisor of MW's and repeat what you've written here. Yes the weather is causing problems...but it's not fair on you to not even be able to have a phone conversation with your mw. At the very least they should get her to call you ASAP.

Ok thanks.

I finally got the number of an emergency MW from the childrens centre this afternoon. It was too late for me to phone as I got in such a state this morning and couldn't stop crying, I couldn't speak to them anymore and they aren't helpful at the best of times.

I'll give her a ring in the morning if I can't get a doctors appointment. I have been having 'period' pains on and off which I am pretty sure is braxton hicks but I just wanted to chat about it to make sure.

I thought they would have had some sort of provision in place for this sort of situation. What if I had been at least 34/35 weeks and was told they couldn't fit me in again? According to my chart that is in the book MW gave me, I am suppose to be having appointments every 2 weeks now. The services in my area are pretty shocking really.

Firstly stay calm :) It will all sort itself out. You might just have to do some nagging be proactive.

Contact the supervisor of midwives for your area. Explain the situation, and your concerns. It may be she can arrange for an appointment with another midwife if yours is not available. It's not fair to leave you on your own for so long.

If you are really stressing out about your birth plan Tommys have a helpline 0800 0147 800. I'm not sure how helpful they can be for your particular issues, but maybe just speaking to a professional will help put your mind at ease.

HTH

oops, x-posts, took so long to find that telephone number and the link doesn't work either! try this instead

Thanks. Will give that a try. Have many questions about my plan that I would llike input from health professionals before I see consultant.