Anyone asked and got a elective c section - advice please

[bethan37]

Hi,
This is my second baby. I have a meeting with the consultant at my 20 weeks scan as i am asking for a c section.
I am not sure how they make their decision but am terrified of another birth like my first.
Has anyone been through this process and has any advice of how to get one?

I had a long labour, assisted birth, could not walk properly for 3 weeks due to bad stiches as she was positerior...

Thanks

StephA odd that they want to go straight to CS and not try induction - if its simply the issue of baby not being too big the induction at about 38weeks seems to be the norm (though all hospitals vary in policy on this). My induction was a disaster and I ended up with and EMCS after 36 hours trying to dilate, morphine for pain relief and very little memory of the first 12 hours with my son. If you DO end up needing a CS please be reassured that it is not the end of the world and my recovery was fine - better than many of my friends who had "normal" births. I didn't feel like DS was "cut out of me" - he arrived on the outside safely, end of story. I have requested an ELCS for this baby as I have GD again and am refusing to be induced.

Just to fill you in on my recent experiences and the hospital and consultants/midwives trying to push me around , and hoping that by reading this it will encourage you all to stand up for yourselves.

I too had a traumatic 1st birth ending in EMCS and suffered terribly with PND afterwards...dd is now 5 and after much counselling/antidepressants/psch help dh and I decided we would try for another last Xmas. Happy days, in April we discovered I was preg and were very excited. However the panic then started to set in and I became v stressed and worried.
When I had been for 12 wk scan I saw midwife and she explained I could see consultant early to put my mind at rest and get ELCS sorted if that was what I wanted. So sure enough I saw consultant who I though seemed lovely at the time. She advised that my due date was 30th Dec, usually an ELCS would be booked for 5 days before but that would be Xmas day so how would I like the 20th so I could then get home for Xmas day to spend with dd & dh . I was overjoyed with this suggestion and agreed wholeheartedly to it as it would be our first proper family Xmas at home in 5 years as dh & I both work in retail & work silly hours over the festive season.
On the 13th Dec I went for my confirmation appointment only to discover I hadnt been booked in. They were incredibly unsympathetic & treated me as though I was just overreacting when I got upset. They said the only available date was the 23rd Dec but that would mean me spending Xmas in hospital or "if I really wanted I could maybe go home on Xmas day?" The comments I got were "well its only 1 Xmas there'll be plenty more"
I asked if there were any later dates available but was told no, they were fully booked up.
So feeling backed into a corner I booked in for 23rd and left incredibly distressed.
On the 15th I called the hospital to see if they had had any cancellations and spoke to a very helpful lady who understood my upset & said she would try to help me. She came back with a later date of the 29th and asked if I was happy to wait if it meant I could spend Xmas at home Of course I agreed and was v thankful.
Then on Xmas eve I received 3 phonecalls explaining that an error had been made and that they needed to delay my appointment to 5th Jan (even though due 30th Dec). Apparently they have 3 booking in books which havent been cross referenced and so each day was overbooked.
To cut it short I got a little hysterical and when they realised quite how upset I was and I had repeated the whole story to them they agreed to keep my date as 29th but stressed that I wouldnt be seen until late afternoon.
So basically what I'm trying to say is make sure you get any agreements in writing, stick to your guns and dont be pushed around. Sorry to have waffled on but didnt want any of you to have to go through same farce.