Is it really worng not to want this 2nd baby?

[Scruffyhound]

IM 24 weeks pregnant and I feel different than with my first. My DS is 5 yrs old and I had him with my ex husband. I left him he was useless. I met my partner whom I have been with for 3 yrs and Im not sure how the whole family will fit together. My partner is ok with my DS but find they bicker a lot. And partner sometimes makes stupid comments to him and most of the things he says to DS are not positive. Im fed up with it. Hes always on his laptop or messing with his new phone. We have no sex life as of about 3 1/2 months and he is pissing me off Im finding him turning out like my ex husband being ignorant. Im worried and very sad that I will be left sorting out baby number 2 and I wont be able to cope. Im so stressed about it and I feel I dont want the baby with him. I feel like running away when baby is born. I have had scans and stuff done everything is ok but I feel different I feel insecure and partner is not making me feel any better. Does anyone have any suggestions to make me feel better about it all?

Counselling? I'm sure you're a great mother and it sounds like you need to be strong and not a victim in this situation or it'll get a lot worse for your child and unborn child.
Marriage counselling?
Hormones are probably all over the shot too.
I really feel for you and your ds. Please don't let your partner emotionally mistreat him.
You may also find more help in the relationship area.
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Thanks Fortress no has replied in the relationship section. My partner is not horrible I just dont think he gets it?! Hes not got any children of his own and speaks to my DS as if he is a grown up. I just hope that when this baby comes hes going to do his bit Im dreading it. As I was left pritty much on my own the last time and was asked by my ex husband to go back to work after my DS was only 3 months old. Ex husband wanted mortgage paying off. I wanted to be at home with my DS and work part time. I do wonder if the last relationship is just highlighting the not so great things in this one? I love my DS and love my bump but its hard to think I have to do all that again. I think maybe your right with the hormone thing as well. Im normally ok but just recently I feel very down and cry a lot. So maybe its a dip or too manay hormones! thanks again for replying to me much appreciated.

Your very welcome sh I hope things get easier for you all. I do really recommend some therapy especially if you feel your past is making the now difficult.
We all have our low days and I've been very snappy with my ds1 on many occasions! However he does know I love him and I think it can be incrediably damaging to a young child if he doesn't feel loved or wanted my the step parent.
Good luck with dc2 I hope they bring much joy and a new loving relationship for your son.

I saw this post last night and in all honesty I clicked off it because I really had nothing useful to say. All I can say is talk to your DH especially if you feel your son isn't feeling loved by him. I hope you get it sorted. Sorry I can't be more helpful.