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unplanned(sorta) pg. Advice on sharing the news with DH!!

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thegingerone · 17/12/2010 12:06

Hi. I know this has been asked before but any advice reassurance from the lovely MNetters would be appreciated!

I'm prob pg with dc3. I have been openly desperate for baby no 3 for ages (DS1 and 2 are 7 and 4) DH is openly not planning to have anymore.(Although he did agree to "one day not just yet two years ago!) I've respected his wishes and haven't debated this stance with him. I've taken emergency pill and we have always used condoms on my fertile days.(My job to be aware of where we are in my cycle) Although I am(was?) planning to sit down and have a proper talk with him about this in the New Year. Frankly I am unhappy because I really want a third child. I love and adore my dcs but when i look at our family I see a missing space.(Sorry if that's a bit HIGH CHEESE!)
Our contraceptive method has also been risky (rhythm) and we are aware of this. We had UPSI on day 9 of my cycle (so really risky but while trying for ds2 I failed to get pg any day before day 12.)
Obviously part of me WANTED to be pg but I def didn't get pg on purpose. One of the things that is worrying me is the THE WHOLE world is aware of my desire to have a baby ( I regret my honesty when asked now) and that DH dosn't. Will it look to everyone including my DH that I tricked him in some way. (I now it takes two. He should have had the snip(though I would have objected!)etc)

I'm not doing a test until he's aware of the possibilty of pg. Cos doing that rather than presenting my whole situation on MN seems more dishonest and behind his back Hmm

How do you suggest I bring this up and how do I do it without sounding like I'm taking the blame for this or sounding like I'm lying through my teeth about the "accidental" nature of this.

HELP!!!!!!!

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ChippingIn · 19/12/2010 15:58

Ginge - how are you today?

FortunateHamster · 22/12/2010 18:24

Any news? Hope you got the result you wanted :)

pedalmonster · 22/12/2010 23:05

MumNWLondon ok so I am a bit crazy.
I would wait 12 weeks so that I know all is ok and baby is fine etc.

saffy85 · 23/12/2010 06:33

I was broody for about a year before getting pregnant with DC2. In that year DP always said "I do want another baby, just not yet." We weren't very careful at all for the 3 months before conception: stopped using condoms and started using the withdrawel method Blush

Anyway, guess who is utterly thrilled about being a daddy again? Smile as others said already your DH hasn't been actively avoiding getting you pregnant so I'd be very shocked if he was angry or upset. It isn't like you poked holes in the condoms is it?

I went with the casual mention of a late period and DP went out and bought a few tests.

saffy85 · 23/12/2010 06:39

Yup MumNWLondon withdrawal is not a method to rely on. I'd testify to that!

As for not telling DP about pregnancy I couldn't/wouldn't do that. firstly I'm crap at keeping secrets and 2nd it's his baby too. He should be involved right from the beginning and have the options of going to all of the scans. Should anything be wrong and I received bad news about my baby the person I'd want to be there to support me is my DP.

ecuse · 23/12/2010 09:33

Yup - withdrawal / rhythm is what got me up the duff!

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