is 40 years old to old..

[patsy8]

Is 40 years old to old to have a baby? I already have 3 children to my ex. My new boyfriend doesn't have any children..... He would like one but has accepted it if I don't want anymore ..

was 24 when I had my first and 29 when I had my third.... my boyfriend doesnt have an children and would like one. don't want to feel the old mum at school ect...

oh and thanks guys for all your advice :-)

I hope not! Am 7 wks prg with my 4th. My dc's are 21, 19 and 4.5.

Had DD2 last year just before my 41st Bday. Pregnancy was much more exhausting than previous one (35), but MW said some 20something get exhausted too it is more to do with the individual pregnancy than with the age.
Of course more monitoring and you might have to thing very well of what you will do if bad news arise as it is more likely.
Also if you had 3 CS, gestational diabetes.... It would be a bit irresponsible to have a 4th one.
Of course the looking after a baby is more tiring too.
But she is soooo cute!
The important question is what do YOU want. I think you know when you are done, and you shouldn't let some fear or some pity for your DP convince you do to something you don't want.
Good luck

I am 41 and will have my first baby in a week or so. Not having been pg before I can't compare, but I've really enjoyed my pregnancy and haven't had problems - just gestational diabetes diagnosed at 38 weeks, which is a pain but will be gone soon.

I have been quite tired throughout, but don't know if that is because of my age or not.

Have also found prejudice among nhs/consultants etc - from the beginning I have been pushed to lots of intervention, consultant-led care, and just being highly managed instead of allowed to get on with it. I got lots of ultrasound scans though, which was nice!

I don't think your age is as big a deal as your reasons for becoming pg (if you do). I second mamaloco's advice - don't have a baby because somone else wants it. Make sure YOU truly are ready for another child.

It all depends on you! For me, I had my 3rd at 37. It was hard on my body. DH got sterilised, age 32.

I had my first at 32 and tbh, I wish I'd started younger. But life doesn't always work that way.

But for others, it's fine.

If you feel okay about it, go for it.

I know a few friends and relatives who've had babies in their late 30s/early 40s and it's turned out fine - I think it's really quite normal these days, so wouldn't worry too much about being seen as an 'old mum'.

I agree with the others that it comes down to how you personally feel - if you do want another child, then I don't think your age should be any reason not to try, but don't feel pushed into it if you don't truly want to though, and that goes for anyone at any age!

I had my first baby at 39. A second baby I lost. I had a straightforward third pregnancy and healthy baby just before my 43rd birthday. I did find my midwife and consultant very supportive. Watch out for young 'baby' doctors.. had one who looked about 12 who made me feel like an old hag! However don.t accept such rudeness; I cried and my midwife sorted him out!

If it is, I'll have to send mine back!