What a week! My Mum and Step Dad parted ways last weekend and my Step Dad has no family and friends in England (he's Portuguese) and nowhere to go. He said he had £1k in savings and would have to stay in a hostel until he could find a bedsit to rent. He has a job in construction which is on a day-to-day basis so, he could go in one day and they could tell him they have no more work for him.
Anyway, feeling sorry for him, I offered to let him have my bedsit until the end of January and when he has more cash behind him. The idea was that me and my partner would stay with my partner's sister. We obviously couldn't all share one room in my bedsit.
Sadly, the arrangement has only lasted 3 days. I'm working full-time and the new commute from my partner's sister meant a longer journey home every day. Then, my partner's sister made it unbearable for us. We couldn't cook food because her oven is thick with grease and grime that never gets cleaned - and days old plates of food all over her kitchen unit. Her 7-year old son has a habit of missing the toilet pan (which never gets cleared up and just stains the floor) and I constantly stepped on urine in my bare feet. Also, she smoke cigarettes with all the windows shut and insisted it was 'her home to do as she pleased' when my partner asked her to respect my condition. The gross-out list goes on...
It just stressed me out, and being 27 weeks pregnant, I just wanted to be in my own home - tiny bedsit that it is! We are moving to a bigger flat just before the baby is born, thank God!
Anyway, I had to tell my Step Dad the truth last night - That I didn't think it through before offering him my home and about the situation at my partner's sister's flat. He said "Don't worry." But has ignored my phone calls ever since and I odn't know where he is. I feel like such a horrible person. Especially when I think of him sleeping in a grotty b&b some where. I really wanted to cope until the end of Jan but, I'm due to give birth in March and really want to be in my own home to prepare. Should I have just tried to grit my teeth and bear it for my Step Dad's sake?
My Mum has refused all responsibility for him. She has been battling mental illness for 2 years, so its hard to have a conversation without her yelling at me. She called me a selfish bitch and all kinds. Its Christmas next week and I'm down in the dumps!
Sorry for the long email. I just needed to tell people. My Aunt says I shouldn't have offered to do it, and at the same time - my step Dad shouldn't have accepted to take my home off me for 2 months when I'm so heavily pregnant. Oh, I can't stop worrying about it!!!