35wks and suddenly feel really anxious

[juliec26]

Hi - 35wks and today I have woken up after a night nightmares last night feeling really anxious - I have been having hypnobirthing and reflexology and have felt quite positive lately, but today I am in tears that my birth will all go wrong - This is dc 2 and Im worried about leaving dd in case something awful happens to me - I am worried I feel like this for a reason and am in floods of tears - please someone talk some sense into me x

couldn't read and run.
But having a bout of anxeity over the birth sounds pretty normal to me.
You have done really good preparation with the hynobirth ect.

Why not either think about all the postive things you've done over the preganacy to help with the birth. Or sit still breath out and try to visualise holding you new born and your other child giving the new born a kiss on the forehead. Keep workign on the image until it's very clear.
Or if that's too tricky just focus on breathing in and out for a few minutes and if a though comes into your head let it go with the next out breath.

hope this helps

Oh poor you, how horrible to feel so anxious :( If you feel as though you can't get a handle on your worries I would talk to the midwife and see if there is anything that can be done to help ease your fears. If it's any help it's highly unlikely you feel like this way for a 'reason'. I was the same with my first worrying that something would go wrong, etc and I know lots of people who have felt the same leading up to the birth. Try to remember some of the techniques you have learnt in hypnobirthing and try to use them when you start to feel panicky. Hope you feel calmer soon and remember the chances of anything going wrong for you or the baby are so, so, so slim. I coped by not thinking about the birth at all :)

Thanks both - I think i'm just having one of those days - started mat leave and too much time to think - both your replies have helped - although made me cry because your kind LOL !! :) right off to shop for baby bits as I am so unorganised this time round! x

Hi Julie,

I was feeling the way you were a few weeks ago (DS1 is now 2 weeks old) panicking that something awful would happen during the birth, or that he would be born with a disability etc. I too had just started maternity leave and posted on here. Got some wonderful advice to keep busy (as hormones plus too much time on my hands = bad thoughts) and to talk to midwife etc.
This really helped put things in perspective for me - from the responses I got seems it's perfectly natural for us ladies to feel this way in the last few weeks.
keep doing your techniques as these will help calm you.

good luck with everything xx

I have ben feeling like this for a few weeks but i got, what i considered to be, really good advice just the other day. My antenatal group leader said to me that, instead of beating myself up about being irrational because these things are unlikely yet i'm focusing on them, I should accept that they are possibilities although statistically a very small chance of them happening but I have already done everything i can to make my pregnancy and baby as healthy as possible and i cannot control the outcome but worrying about it will not stop it.
I found that these words really helped. She may have phrased it more articulately than me.

Thanks everyone - i am putting it down to a bad night last night and hoping that with some sleep and rest i will feel better - Congratulations Lainey - Hope you had a good birth!! - I know fear is normal, but I just have such horrid thoughts, but not just with childbirth so think I am just a worrier! thanks again x