How late is too late to book

[mamadoc]

I'm 10 weeks on Monday but have had two miscarriages this year at 8 and 9 weeks.
The last one I left it to 8 weeks to book and then lo and behold I miscarried again.
I found it heartbreaking having to cancel all the appointments for scans and midwife the last times and tbh I have had so little hope that this will work out that I am just burying my head in the sand.
I don't know whether to make an appt next week or leave it another week. I am so frightened it will sort of jinx it and I will miscarry again.
I do realise its stupid and irrational but that's the way I feel.
So how late can I realistically leave it and still give them time to book scans.

It depends how soon they can offer you an appt if they are busy then you may have to wait a few weeks. If you are having nuchal scan the latest it can be done is 13+6 so I would be booking soon if I wanted it.

I wish you the best of luck, and I can totally sympathise with how you must be feeling.

I actually don't want a nuchal scan or any of the screening blood tests. There is no way in the world I would ever consider termination whatever a test showed especially after the MCs.

I had a booking appointment at around 12 weeks and they managed to get me a scan for a few days later. I think it will depend on how busy they are to be honest.

The important scan is the 20 week one. I don't think you should leave it this long, but can't see any reason why you shouldn't wait until the 12/14 weeks mark.

I really hope it all goes well.

It totally depends on your area. I had my booking appointment at 9 weeks and only just got a 12 week scan, they thought they'd have to put me on a cancellation list but I got the last slot. There was a three week wait for the booking appointment so in your position I wouldn't have a hope of getting a scan in time.

It depends how important it is to you to have a nuchal translucency scan. They have to do that between certain dates (think its the end of the 13th week). If you don't want that then having the scan a bit later won't matter, otherwise I think you need to see the mw asap.

As you've got this far I think it would be a good idea to get some medical appointments sorted. After all, if you've got low iron or whatever you can't deal with it without knowing. You need appropriate medical care to look after your little one as best you can.

I do understand about jinxing it but you've said yourself that it's irrational (I've had an m/c and I know its tough but tbh don't think telling the NHS made it much worse). I think for the good of this baby you can't let that get in the way any longer. Maybe you could get your DP/DH to make the appointments for you.

Good luck

Mamadoc, I understand exactly how you feel, I've just plucked up the courage to book my 1st appt, having also been an ostrich (and a chicken) about the whole thing. I will/should be 12 weeks by the time I see the midwife and am hoping, if everything is well, they'll be able to sort out a regular scan for me relatively quickly.
I am sure they are used to seeing women come in at all stages - whether it's because they didn't realise they were pregnant or couldn't make appointments for whatever reason, so not worried about it from that point of view - but understand the irrational fear of jinxing it!
Anyway I wish you all the best, and I'm sending lots of good luck your way.

I was going to go last week at 9 weeks but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I have quite a collection of unused handheld notes already.

Although neither of my MCs has been missed I am kind of phobic about having the scan in case the baby is dead after all. I can't really believe it could be possible that I will actually get to have a baby.

Hi mamadoc, how are you? Have you had a scan yet? Best of luck to you.