Is it normal to be less OTT about dc2?

[soppypreggyloon]

I'm excited but it's not an all consuming obsession like with dc1.
Dh is struggling to get excited. He's pleased and happy but he's just not excited- sometimes I worry he's not that engaged iyswim.

Is this normal? I think it probably is but I want a bit of reassurance.
He wants to find out the sex at our next scan as he thinks that'll help him to connect with baby. I didn't want to but if it'll help then maybe it's worth it.

Oh I'm having a hormonal confused day!

DP never seemed excited or engaged with any of my (3) pregnancies

Once they were born he was fab, though

It must be a difficult thing to get your head round if it's not happening to you. And it goes on for bloody ever

i think its normal. With dc1 i was forever reading / looking online at baby things...now i 'know' whats what i read the odd mag if bored but generally i'm not as excited as its no longer 'the unknown' where as with dc1 EVERYTHING was new. I'm still excited / happy etc

I would say normal.

I read what was happening week by week etc with DS. Very excited. This time I am happy but a bit blaise about the whole thing and not desperate to get the baby out at all. I keep feeling guilty that DS is going to have to share us and his room soon. Which I know is ridiculous but I like being able to spend time with him and focus on him and feel bad that he will have to take a bit of a back seat when the baby is here and needs seeing to more than he will.

I understand your feelings exactly. I feel really bad because I'm sure I enjoyed my first pregnancy but just seem to find myself moaning all the time about this one. It is rediculous really - we had to try so hard to get this one, whereas the first was a complete accident 9 years ago! I wonder if it is partly because your memory naturally blocks out some of the negative things after the baby comes along. Think about it - if every mother could remember everything about giving birth, we would all be only children!

It is also not helped because I am much bigger earlier on this time round. I feel heavy and tired and I still have to wait until February before he arrives!

I tried to get a little more positive by keeping a diary of the nice things about my pregnancy this time round. I get DD to help out too - involving her in it gets me more excited too as it is all new to her. Or perhaps you could try some of the things that you didn't get to do last time? To spark that excited feeling a little more.

Take care and don't feel too down.

Yes its normal you don't have the time to focus on being pregnant like you do with the first one. Plus you know the reality of whats gonna hit you once their born!!!

Our experience of the second child being born was actually much nicer than DC1!

I am pg again and we seem much more excited about this one but we have a bigger gap and our older two are in a routine, at school etc so got more time to think about it!

xxxx

You don't know what to expect the first time, with the second you are far more relaxed because you have been there before. As it gets nearer you will get more excited ;) I think when its earlier on as well, especially when the baby isn't felt so much, it doesn't really feel like you are pregnant.

I'm 20 weeks friday and still don't feel overly pregnant as the little ratbag isn't very big on movements yet lol. he does but not when I am just sat doing nothing and isn't doing the big kicks yet. I just feel like I am putting weight on lol.

It's made me feel better reading all your comments, I've been quite poorly so it's hard to get excited and I'm so tired looking after my DS who is nearly 3 (thank God for Grandparents!) I also feel guilty about not being able to do much with DS and when I do feel better he'll have to share me with another baby! I try and focus on how providing a brother/sister for him to play with is well worth a few months of knackered Mammy!I'm sure once we all have our new babies we'll be more excited!