should i have a late scan or am i going crazy?

[sotough]

i'm 32 weeks pregnant and having a wobble.
this pregnancy is very precious - we had four first trimester miscarriages and a lot of heartache, tests, investigations and special treatment, and i'm thrilled that this pregnancy has progressed. at the 21 week scan everything looked normal.
however in the last couple of weeks i've started feeling very anxious that something might be wrong with the baby. my fears aren't based on any evidence except that people keep saying my bump is very small; i've only put on a little over a stone in weight; and because of all the miscarriages i'm used to being 'on the wrong side of the statistics.' baby seems to be wriggling and kicking nicely.
i'm wondering whether to have a late scan (privately) but half scared of what it could show. my DH thinks i'm being silly and i'm sure I am, but still the fears remain. obviously if the scan showed a disability or something there would be nothing anyone could do anyway.
does anyone else feel this way? what would you do? please be kind - recurrent miscarriage can do strange things to your head.

people talk bobbins about bump size, I wouldn't take that seriously at all. also it's fine to only put a stone on at this stage. Would a further scan make you feel better though, or would you just worry the day after it, that's the problem....

I have felt ridiculously anxious about this pregnancy (2nd) for no reason at all, as my first one resulted in lovely DS1. The best advice I can give is to speak to your MW, or call the antenatal clinic at the hospital and speak to someone there. They'll be really nice to you (as they were to me) and I'm sure will be able to put your mind at rest, or maybe even get you in for a scan. They are used to pg women worrying and won't think you're being silly at all. xx

Hi sotough - I had the same comments for ages, about my bump being small. Am now 39 weeks, and at appointment a couple of weeks ago, midwife felt baby and said (umprompted) 'Well, it's definitely not the smallest baby I've ever felt', so it appears to actually be quite big after all!

A lot of bump size / weight gain is to due with water retention, or lack of. I have been lucky enough not to get swollen ankles or hands... are you the same?

Small bumps really don't mean anything, I was tiny with all of mine and with my twins I still only looked as pregnant as others with 1

I had late scans with all of my pregnancies due to complications etc... but to be honest it never stopped me worrying.

so tough - everyone would look at me when I was 32wks and ask me was I sure about my dates - it was only the lady doing my 34wk scan (obstatritian led care) who said 'ouch this baby is a big un' it turns out I wasnt carrying loads of water and her head was already down. However if you are worried - speak to mw - most are really quite sympathetic and may be able to get you in for a scan. The wait will be horrid but I was really glad I had one so late on x

thanks everyone. yes, i don't really have any water retention - no swollen hands or feet, at any rate, not yet, and my boobs are not much bigger than they were before. as long as baby is healthy i'm actually glad i'm not enormous, but the more people comment the more it plays to my latent paranoias! got a midwife appointment soon so will talk it over with her then....

I think just book the private scan, Sotough, you need your mind to be put to rest.

I had a late scan because MW was worried about my bump size (too small); I never was worried in the slightest and the bump was absolutely fine, of course. But I'm the sort who worries little and it was my 4th pregnancy so I was beyond feeling precious. You're in quite a different space.

Sotough, if you can afford it, I would definitely do a private scan. I am like you - extremely worried and have certain risk factors. I pay privately for my care as this gives me a peace of mind (I am not a Brit and the whole NSH thing just never gave me much comfort)... I recently had bad spotting and pains for over a week and was really really worried... couldn't sleep at night... Then I went to see a fetal medicine specialist who did a scan which showed everything was normal. It was a huge relief as if a mountain fell of my shoulders and honestly I felt that this was the best way I could have spent money!