BF baby and think I'm pregnant - help?

[amipregnantbf]

I've changed my name because I dont want to be guessed by friends on here. My baby is 10mths old and bf on demand so roughly 6-7 times a day plus three meals.

DH and I have hardly had sex since the birth due to being shattered :)

Actually the last time we did was early September ... this is the longest we've ever gone. My libido has truely gone with the wind for now.

Problem is usually about this time after having a baby the extra hair i gained during pregnancy falls out, i lose some weight, and I dont feel as tired. But right now I am shattered by 9 when normally I dont feel tired until 11.30pm, my hair is still as thick as pregnancy. I've not noticed any falling out. I've only lost a bulk of weight at the beginning.

I also had a some tummy feelings few months ago like period feelings stirring round and I thought my period was about to start. But it didnt. With last baby my period started as soon as I started weaning.

This time though I am feeding quite alot.

The last time we had sex my dh did not ejaculate in me ... surely that together with feeding so often would make it very unlikely I am pregnant?

Tiredness could be because I am older
Weight still there because I am older
Hair still there?
Skin nice and plump?
Hunger?

My dh would go absolutely mad if I was and I dont know how I would cope. I was thinking of buying a test today but I talked myself out of it telling myself I am being silly and that I could not possibly be pregnant.

With all the hormones going around my body bf would it effect the result?

Any advice would be much apreciated.

It's possible you're pregnant. Only way to find out is to do a test. IF DH would go mad, then he should have thought more carefully about contraception - it's hardly just your fault!

bf wont stop you getting pregnant, but if he didnt 'do' anything inside you but you didnt use a condom there is still a chance you could be pregnant as sperm can seep out throughout sex sometimes known as 'pre cum'. My hair didnt fall out after pregnancy, best thing to do is a test its the only way you'll put your mind at rest but please dont use bf as a contraceptive, my mw told me i was extremley fertile after giving birth AND whilst breastfeeding. If your dh is 'mad' then i'd kick him in balls - takes 2 to make a baby.

sorry but breastfeeding is only effective as a contraceptive until 6 months

baby must be feeding frequently, no other sources of food, feeding in the night, and under 6 months

so, it's very much possible that you could be pregnant although i am not sure your symptoms are particularly indicative of a pregnancy

get a test and put your mind at rest tho

Breastfeeding won't stop you getting pregnant, especially once the baby is 6 months plus and eating other food.

You will ovulate approximately 10-14 days before a period starts so if you have had sex without contraception it's entirely possible you could be pregnant.

A man doesn't need to ejaculate for sperm to be released. You can get pregnant without ejaculation.

The only way to know for sure is to do a test.

And if it's negative and you don't want to get pregnant sort out some contraception ASAP!

she does feed through the night 12am, 3am and 5am. I'm actually in the process (torture) of refusing the 3am feed since last Friday. At 10 mths and three meals a day she was on at least 8 feeds a couple of weeks ago but I've cut out a couple.

Ooops there she goes now.

Well if I am then I would be happy but know I will be in for hard couple of years. Dh did want to get the snip after baby was born but I talked him out of it. I guess there is no point in me stressing until I know.

I have no other real symptoms either so I guess I am not.

yes but she also would need to be under 6 months and not having any other food....

It's not the night feeding, it's the age of the baby and the exclusivity of feeding that inhibits ovulation.

It's definitely not reliable as contraception over 6 months regardless of how many feeds. And it's not that reliable under 6 months either!

we've never used any contraception except avoiding a one week a month with withdrawl and it worked up to now for us and we conceived all three when we wanted. so i know its not that easy to fall pregnant using the withdrawl method. But I guess because i've not had a period I dont know when to avoid.

I'm thinking those period like feelings I had a few months back may have been me ovulating or implantation pains. I only had them a few days I think.

I think I'll get a test tomorrow.

each time we've had a baby its been a real big occasion and excitement surrounding it. i hate the thought of my dh unhappy about it, a little baby.

i know i need to sort contraception out, but i really did not get on with the pill or coil.

me either amipreg
we use condoms at the moment because i'm breastfeeding and don't want to use any hormone-based contraception. not keen on copper coil either.

when did your periods start back when bf, first time with me they came after i stopped at 8 mths and 2nd time they came at 6mths when i started weaning. baby 3 is 10mths and weaned but this time no periods still. i'm glad in one way but at least when you have them you can work out the best times to avoid sex. it must be because i feed this baby more times in a day compared to my 2nd one who dropped alot of feeds as soon as she start weaning.

bump

"sorry but breastfeeding is only effective as a contraceptive until 6 months"- it's not, and one of my friends has a second baby to show for it.

paribus, i don;t recall saying it was 100% effective! but then no form of contraception is. studies have repeatedly shown tho that if you follow the criteria listed below it can be at least 95% effective

of course some people will get pregnant before the 6 months, but then a lot of people don't stick very rigidly to the exclusive breastfeeding, feeding during the night etc etc!

there will be women who start to ovulate before the 6 months regardless tho, and those are the ones who risk getting pregnant. it's still fairly unlikely tho!

BFing 95%-98% effective before 6 months if:

• no formula, dummy, or solids
• bfing round the clock, not sleeping through night
• no periods

98% means 2 women in 100 will get pregnant in a year.

Did you test?

I would never count on BF as contraception no matter when it was. Its always being said about how unreliable it is and you can still get pregnant at anytime.