Think I have ante-natal depression.

[Rocklover]

First of all let me apologise, I have posted far too many moany rants lately, so don't want people getting fed up with me.

As I have talked about before, I have constant pregnancy nausea, IBS and various other pregnancy related ailments which are really making me feel dreadful even at 28 weeks.

I am having additional stresses in that my 5 y/o dd is experiencing problems at her new school and is crying each morning and not wanting to go in which I find heartbreaking. I am not coping very well with her being so upset as she loved her previous school and although I am trying to deal with it via the school it's causing me much anxiety.

I live with my dp who I moved nearly 200 miles away from my family to be with. I became pregnant about a year into the relationship, which in hindsight was probably not the greatest idea. I am finding the relationship very difficult at the moment and I am extremely homesick for my family...my Mum is my rock.

Dp is getting a bit fed up I think as I am so miserable all the time. I was crying this morning about the problem with dd and probably being a bit snappy. I phoned him up after I dropped dd off at school as I was upset as she was so clingy and scared before I left (not like her). And although I know he was trying to help me sort things out he kept shouting at me over the phone which just made me cry even more.

He wasn't like this before we lived together, so I can only conclude that my difficult pregnancy and the anxiety it is causing me is making life hard for him.

If I come clean all I really want is to grab dd and run home to my Mum (pathetic as I am 36), because I just can't cope any more. I hate being away from my family, I hate the feeling of isolation I get here, I never feel safe or secure.

I am wondering if I need to go back on anti-depressants to help with this feeling of hopelessness. Sorry to seem so ridiculous, but I just needed to get it all out, any advice would be welcome. Thanks.

Thanks angels, I will ask the gp about accupuncture when I see them.

Done a very scary thing, just made myself take one of my iron tablets as I have been too chicken to start them so far because of my nausea and ibs. Now I have the scary wait for side effects.

hope everything is OK with the pills. I have blood test in 3 weeks to check for anemia and am worried they'll try and make me take the tablets too - but, you should feel better in yourself once the iron is in your system as anaemia can give you nausea and make you really tired. Let me know how they go with you, and I'm sure they'll be fine :)

Rocklover I just wondered if you have contacted the GP yet? I just had a really helpful visit from the Community Psychiatric Nurse after a referral from my GP. She was so nice and helpful and had a lot of sensible and practical things to say. I also had my Mam here and she now feels like she understands the situation better. The CPN has said I should get a doctors note for at least the next 2 weeks and be as selfish as I need to in order to lower my anxiety levels. Don't do things to please other people, do only what you feel able to do (easier said than done but worth trying) It wasn't a magic wand but having someone understand and give expert advice was great.