HELP!! Just got a positive result and DD is only 4 months. I need some positives from anyone with experience.

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Well the above says it all.

I really can't believe it, have done a test this morning and DD is only just 4 months old. Aaaah!!

My head is spinning and I cannot think straight.

I need anyone with experience of this to help me make sense of what's going on and tell me that it will all be ok!!

DH is completely supportive and actually quite happy about it all. I, on the other hand, feel like I'm going into freefall.

i have to say, i would think that too if you told me their birthdates!!

LOL to Pacific! I just wanted to add my experience Ipredicttrouble... My DS1 and DS2 are 14 months apart, and I didn't know I was pregnant until I was about 10 weeks gone. Went to the scan expecting to be told I was 8 weeks or so, turned out to be 12 and a half already! Was a big shock (hadn't had a period yet, DC1 still exclusively bfing every hour!). My only mistake was to believe every person I spoke to who said "my it will be difficult for you". Yes, it was a little tough for the first couple months, but actually it wasn't as bad as I thought, I was too busy feeling sorry for myself to realize how lovely it was! Sooo, that being said, once DS2 hit 6 months it was WAAAAY easier, and by the time he was 9 months I wanted to try for another! Got pregs straight away and had DS3 with a 19 month gap between DS2 and DS3. That was absolutely lovely, I wasn't stressed or worried what it would be like, and DS3 just fit in perfectly with everyone else (and it helped he was an angel baby, totally chilled out and good napper and good at nights). Anyway, expecting DC4 in 3 days (don't know the sex) and my 3 boys are 5, 4 and 2.5. The boys all adore each other, they do fight but they spend all day playing together (we home-ed) and I wouldn't have it any other way. We often get asked if the older two are twins. :) I wish you all the best, and my best advice is don't worry too much, it won't be that bad and the hard bit is over very quickly. And don't give a stuff what other people think, its none of their business... Wishing you all the best!

I feel so much better after reading this thread. Thank you! I'm still going to wait till after the scan to tell my mum, though...

My ds1 and 2 are 14 months apart, yes is was a juggle at first. I must admit I was routine queen and they were both great sleepers!

I just used to smile at people and simply say 'we are delighted', why do some people seem to have to give their opinions? (ds1 has downs so believe me I've heard every last one! Find it quite funny now!)

Then we had nearly 5 year gap and had dd1 (that was coz we 'must be desperate for a girl'!). Now expecting dc4 there should be a 16/17 month age gap, am vague as I've never got to due date yet. I actually feel like it will be a big gap!!!!

Who wants to conform to normality anyway?

It is no one else's business, just smile and keep a tally on the funniest ones!

Be my friend!! I'm in the same boat!!

I'm 14 weeks pregnant with my 5th and my 4th is not quite 6 months.

There will be about 11 1/2 months between them.

It has taken me this long to feel even the slightest bit positive!!!

I'm getting there and you will too.

11 months between my two.

I found the later stages of pregnancy tough. I was huge and dd1 wasn't walking so it was physically hard.

I found the first year much better than i imagined. i was on a massive high for thefirst few months, then tiredness kicks in, but i was still getting up with dd1 for various reasons (teething, wanted dummy etc) so getting up for dd2 wasn't a big deal and no shock to the system iyswim.

7 years on and it's the most wonderful 'mistake' i ever made. They are chalk and cheese but are (deep, deep down) devoted to each other.

Many congratulations.

15 months between my two, like everyone says it was a bit difficult for the first year, then a bit easier, then this year DD2 is 3 and DD1 is 4, and within the last six months or so they have started playing nicely together and it's all become a lot easier. They do fight, though. Who said that girls don't fight? I feel like a WWF referee some days!

Thanks so much for the messages, it's so reassuring .

Im swaying between feeling positive and totally overwhelmed. Ill get there.

perpetually id love to be your friend!

I am in a similar position. My DD is 7months old and I am 9 weeks pregnant. Was a HUGE shock at first but getting used to the idea. My little brothers have only 17 months between them and they are 8 and 7 now and are the best of friends. We will have our work cut out but Im sure that it will all be worth it :)

Just re-reading some of the posts and what you said colourful, about it may take the whole of the pregnancy to get used to, really struck a chord.

It's still not really sinking in. I'm really trying to make myself feel excited but I just can't. I go from feeling ok about it to real moments of despair, that I've made a terrible mistake! I feel awful admitting that.

I had my booking in appt with the midwife yesterday and she looked at me like I was mental (as I bounced 4 month old DD on my knee). Also, it was nowhere near as exciting as the 1st time but maybe thats just normal for a 2nd pregnancy.

I'm sorry for such a self-indulgant waffle - I'm just struggling a bit I guess.

Well much further down the line I can say that its great! There is 17 months between me and my younger sister, and we are so close. I always had a playmate, we went through our teenage years together, and even shared friends & clothes. Today we are still close but chalk and cheese personality wise.

I am due with DC1 next week, who is an IVF baba, and we are planning to use our frozen embryos before the end of my Mat Leave as I really would like any children close together.

Yes it will be hard for you at at first, but brilliant for the children so please don't feel guilty!

Thanks Andie. Good luck with the birth of DC1 - let us know how you get on

I'm sure you just imagined the midwife was thinking that! If she has any experience she will of seen people having two close before.

Just give it time and enjoy dc1.

Often second pregnancies are more practical if you see what I mean than the exciting first ones. You simply know what is coming. This is regardless of the age gap!

Remember you are battling with wicked hormones too! X

Thanks justonemoreplease - yes, Im sure hormones are playing a part - Im finding myself on the brink of tears quite frequently!

Poor you. Unfortunately I think it is all part of motherhood! We are all slightly less emotionally stable when we are expecting, have little ones, have slightly bigger little ones and even those of us with really quite big ones!

I welled up at the end of the last Downton Abbey on Sunday! So unlike the pre- Mother J.O.M.P ! Sooooooo relieved there is going to be another series. Bonkers!

Just take one day at a time. Big hug.