Second pregnancy so much different from the first...

[blanchedevereaux]

I have a DD who is 2 (today!) and I am 29 weeks pregnant with my second.

Being pregnant the first time was a non-event, no sickness, not too much tiredness, etc, etc.

This time: felt ill for weeks, terribly tired but also a raging insomniac - wake anytime from 2am and lie there for hours. Cry at the drop of a hat (or a teaspoon or biscuit on the floor), slightly down rather than excited, feel uncomfortable all the time and so annoyed with work.

I know each pregnancy is different and I know having a toddler isn't helping but come on! I think it is a girl (though don't actually know) so not sure I can blame hormones!

my first two pregnancies were like your first, no sickness, apart from odd headache i felt remarkably well, both girls. With third I felt dreadful, sick several times a day for more than 12 weeks, head banged all the time, felt so exhausted, etc, thought it may be a boy as so different ... was a girl . Like you say, every pregnancy different, currently pregnant with number 4, am now just assuming a girl but somewhere in middle with symptoms!
I do sympathise, I couldn't believe how awful I felt with 3rd pregnancy but it did get better past 20 weeks so hopefully yours will too??

Well, my 1st and 3rd pregnancies were similar - and they were boys - and my 2nd was different - and was a girl...

Have you had a blood test recently? You could be slightly anaemic. I was like that when I was supposed to be blooming, and the morning sickness even returned around 29w. Then I got a letter telling me I was borderline anaemic, so I started taking iron and within a week the nausea had disappeared, my mood improved, I slept better. Fab! With nos2 and 3 I took iron throughout and none of the above happened. (Apart from only being able to sleep in 2h blocks. But that was probably my bladder .) I even bloomed - as much as you can with toddlers in tow.

I'm finding my second pregnancy much harder too. Been sicker, more tired, more hormonal I think.

I'm also experiencing the more embarrasing pregancy things too. Today I went for a wee, once I was finished and stood up a it more wee came out . . . in my knickers. Nice. I'm also experiencing some constipation as of yesterday. I didn't either of these things last time. I don't want to be constipatefd and smelling of wee!!!

Let it out hon!

It's the truth, the second time it's just more hard work.

I'm expecting my 2nd ds, pregnancys are quite different

I am also expecting my 2nd DS and this pregnancy has been bloody awful! Totally put me off having any more!

My 1st pregnancy was a breeze - no sickness - no backache and only felt uncomfortable right at the end.

I have felt awful for months and often have a little cry to myself for no good reason!

What makes it worse is noone has any sympathy for you - no matter what your ailment becuase you are "only pregnant" and you are expected to just get on with it!

(Sorry I am having a bad day!)

i agree PDR also my dh doesnt seem as concerned, i'm still bricking myself about giving birth just as much but you dont get no sympathy 2nd time

Pinkyp that goes for me too. Dh keeps reminding me i've done it before but what scares me the mos is that i last did it 7 nyrs ago and my fears are worse this time as i know more about what to expect. He jsut keeps saying i thought this is what you wanted to b epg again. Well it is but i still need to have a moan every now and a gain. Am definitely more hormonal this time and less tolerant of certain people and ridiculous things people say and do.

Oh that felt good to get that off my chest!

My husband is so less sympathetic this time! I think he thinks I am just being a wuss!