Rainbow of emotions!

[Aymz1983]

Hello all

First time poster so please bear with me! I have just found out im pregnant today - this will be my third pregnancy in just over 5 months, I had a miscarriage in June at about 4/5 weeks - lots of pain with that one, in agony for good couple weeks, i often wonder whether it could have been ectopic (wasnt scanned til pain had all but gone)
Second miscarriage at end of August, not much pain, but had lots of bleeding with this one, at 7 weeks, though baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks.
I've had some nagging pains this time around which promted me to do a test as they were reminiscient of first mc, just not on as big a scale. Im petrified will lose this one too. Im not sure if i have a point with this..i am so happy to be pregnant again but then so scared in case i lose it...i dont know what to do. Do you think id be able to see the midwife earlier than usual for booking in? maybe get scanned a litle earlier? I know the NHS usually dont investigate until one has had 3 or more, but...im all over the place. I dont even want to tell anyone i know in case it jinxes it so i have no one close to confide in! Could these just be normal pains?! I do have 2 childen already, aged 7.5 and 5, now im worrying though something gone wrong between them and now...god, any sane logic would be most welcome, im doing my nut in!

I have one DS, and last year I had two MCs back to back, with no period in between. I then fell pg again a couple of months later.
I was paranoid at every single twinge and pain, and the first 14 weeks or so were the longest of my life.
However, the midwives at the early preg unit said you are NO more likely to have yet another MC (esp if you already have healthy kids). And in fact, they also said that 3 in a row is very rare if you already have kids.

SO, the odds are with you.

Do you have an early preg unit at your local hospital (even loads of hospitals without maternity units have them)? I phoned them myself and explained I'd had two MCs, and was anxious, so they scanned me at 7w 5d, and again at 9w. It was a big help to see a healthy heartbeat both times. Although it didnt take away all the anxiety. So check if you have an early preg unit and phone them to self refer.

A VERY important point too - my midwife told me you are MEANT to feel weird twinges, so dont worry about them, theyre meant to happen as things start to stretch.

Best of luck. x

PS I'm 37 weeks, so my twinges and spotting were all "normal".

You can ask about extra scans and appointments, but it's not standard to get them after 2 MCs. I paid for a reassurrance scan at 8 weeks as I'd have got completely potty waiting till 12 weeks - highly recommend doing that.

Thanks guys, i know im probably worrying over nothing but i cant help it :)

I do have an EPAU by me, i've also asked whether i can see the midwife a bit earlier than the usual 8 week booking in, just to see what she says as well.

And i will look into having a private sca done if one can't be offered to me, just...ooh i dont like waiting lol

Thanks :)

dont worry - we've all been at that worrying stage. It's easy when there's been no bad luck, but when you've been through a MC or something similar/worse, it's all too easy to focus on the negatives.

Give your EPU a phone and see what they say. As I said, they scanned me after 2 MCs

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