Stuck away from home

[Rocklover]

I am due to be driving the 3 1/2 hour journey home today (need to make sure I get dd back for school tomorrow, there is an inset day today) and I'm stuck.

I feel very sick (as bloody usual) and panicky and I don't want to drive my 5 y/o on a long journey when I am feeling like this. I am so fed up with struggling with near constant nausea at 27 weeks.

I just don't feel like doing the journey at the moment, I am very upset and my anxiety is through the roof.

What's worse is that I have to do this journey again when I am 8 months gone as I have to get dd to her Dad's for Christmas.

I know I moan on here alot about this sort of thing, so sorry for repeating myself. Just needed to vent. :(

Glad you made it home. Please, no more long journeys. Take it easy.

I have decided I cannot do that again, no more long distance driving for me.

Although today I had to get dd back to school and just driving 10 minutes up the road was horrible. I think my body has collapsed from the stress of Monday and Tuesday, I don't know if I will ever get another "good" day this pregnancy. :(

:( big unmumsnetty hugs, I really feel for you. Hope you do start to feel better, and your XP is good about having to pick DD up for Xmas.

Sorry have namechanged slightly but it is still me! :)

Thanks Ginger, nice sparkly new name!

Just had a text from xp to say he cannot leave it the 8 weeks until Christmas to see dd again, which is fair enough.

However, he has said that I (and dp) need to sort out a back up plan to get dd to him whilst I am too ill to drive. No mention of him helping out at all!

It looks like I will have to take her by train which will cost a bleeding fortune and dp and I really will struggle to afford that at the mo.

Hey ho, looks like i'll have to get my brain in gear to figure this one out.

WHY on earth is it up to YOU to get DD to him? I am truly mystified. And lets face it neither of you can actually drive at the moment, can you? So you are no more able than him to get her there. You have, IMO, been doing him a massive favour by transporting her in any case.

Message him back. Tell him if he wants to see DD it is up to him to work out transport. You are not a travel agent.

Is it not a legal thing where the absent parent has to make own travel/transport arrangements?
I think you are being extremely generous taking your DD to see him and i do understand why you do it, because you are a good mother and want the very best for your child and that means seeing her daddy.
However, i feel your XP should also be a good father and realise he is putting his child and his childs mother in danger by trying to make you drive when you are so poorly.
Maybe there is a solicitor on here who could offer some advice on where you stand legally??