Christmas baby v Christmas plans

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So my Mum isn't very happy with me because i said i thought it best we don't have Christnas at my house this year... my due date is Dec 21st lol.

I was just wondering if i've made a bad choice, my Christmas plan is not to have a plan just see what happens and put 2 M&S turkey ready meals for me and DH in the freezer.

Is anyone else expecting a Christmas baby and if so are you still making plans which will just have to be wiped out should baby arrive?

I'm worried that i'll go 2 weeks over and Christmas will be miserable because i didn't have a proper Cristmas set up but at the same time i don't want to plan a big Christmas and then let everyone down when i go in to labour 4am Christmas morning.

BTW i'm the only family member who could feasibly have the family for Christmas both brothers and parents have small flats/bungalow.

Thanks

Exactly. If it wasn't Christmas, you have to ask yourself whether stuffing herself with a huge roast and pudding and heaps of other rich food (or even cooking it for a gang of visiting family members,) plus loads of shopping and decorating and dressing up is really, truly what every new mum/overdue mum dreams of for the first few weeks before/after her baby...

And I think, hmmmmmmmmmmmmm...

(PS. DF check the antenatal thread re. your leg thing..)

This thread has definitely struck a chord with me, I am due 20/12 and have 'decided' in my infinite wisdom that I will definitely be overdue...

I have also already invited my Dad along with his wife and her daughter and my G'dad to dinner - I am beginning to wonder what I was thinking!!!

I have two DSD also, so that would be 8 of us for dinner, nine if my sister comes also which is likely.

Do you think it would be too much to rescind my invite and maybe change it to an evening buffet invite instead??

I think it's right to not make any plans with a baby due around Christmas.

My LO is due 15/12 and we've only started making any Christmas plans since my OC diagnosis means that it's increasingly likely I'll make it to the 15th and won't be going over!

And all we've planned is that my parents will be around over Christmas, either staying with us or in a rented cottage nearby. They are fab about helping out so will be looking after us, not the other way round.

The in-laws are going to come over on the 27th, but everyone is going to bring food, crackers etc so we don't have to do anything and MIl has said that if it gets too much, I just have to say and she'll get everyone out.

I don't think it's right or fair to expect anyone with a newborn or who is about to pop to either travel or "host" anything!

Ds I was due on the 27th, my parents came up and stayed. The idea was that if I had a tiny newborn they would understand if we cancelled or they would merrily cook dinner and not get in the way if I had the baby. As it was I went 2 weeks over so I just sat around like a whale and everyone else did the work. His birth was very easy and I would actually have been very happy having people over when he was tiny.

Dd was due on the 20th and while I couldn't quite get my head around having her before Christmas due to going so overdue last time we didn't make plans at all. MIL sulked a lot. I went into labour on the 23rd. Then I picked up an infection and on Christmas day I was in huge amounts of pain, passing massive clots, leaving the loo a bloodbath every time I went and shivering under several blankets while wearing every jumper in the house. I was admitted to hospital on Boxing Day. I don't think MIL has forgiven me yet for saying I didn't really want her to come up on Christmas Day.

I would definitely go with no plans. The family will just have to lump it.

Ha! Makes me think back two years... I was due 17/12 and closest family 1.5hrs drive away. So, plan was for us to stay at home and parents and brother (+family) to bring xmas lunch to ours. I wouldn't need to get in a car either pregnant or with a newborn, and they would do all the work.

Would've been a great plan only I went in to labour at 11pm on Xmas eve! Xmas morning calls to tell family to stay at home - we had pizza! I had a home birth so they brought over boxing day lunch 7 hours after DD was born. I have no recollection of what anyone bought me that year!

I think our plan was pretty ace, but I would def get the M&S meal for two ready just in case :-)

DD (second baby) was due 2 yrs ago on 21 Dec. She was born at home in the early hours of 23 Dec. My mum was staying with us to help out and cooked Christmas dinner for us - DD spent her 'first christmas dinner' swaddled up in a moses basket in the corner while I gorged on roasties . Then I went back to bed with a baby attached to my bosom.

I wouldn't make any firm plans, as someone else said there will be other Christmasses. If you are overdue on Christmas Day I can't think of anything worse than hosting a big dinner with everyone saying things like 'not long now'

Spoke to my Mum about it today, she, my Dad and Brothers (all live within 12 miles) are going to have xmas lunch at a fancypants hotel then come to us in the afternoon for mince pies (out of a packet) and coffee which my DH will be capable of preparing (just, lol). That way if i'm overdue i can just sit there, eat mince pies and enjoy their company and if we have a newborn they can have a Christmas cuddle then head on home.

I feel so much happier with this plan!

Due on 22nd dec. Already have DS who is going to be 3 in Jan.
We have hosted xmas dinner for my family and in-laws for the last few years. However, months ago, told them that we would be staying home alone, to sort themselves out and we may have them round for an hour on xmas night if new baby has arrived. Hadn't thought of M&S dinner but this sounds like a fab idea!!

Good stuff smoggii.
Top plan.
:)

That sounds like a good plan smoggi :)