No sex during pregnancy.

[sonamay]

Does anyone else agree it should be the case for a number of reasons or just feels right?

What reasons?

There are a few cases where it is medically contraindicated (threatened miscarriage etc. and low lying placenta) but in normal pregnancies it is harmless and in fact towards the end of pregnancy can be very helpful for ripening the cervix. Also, the oxytocin may promote bonding between the expectant couple. There may be other hormonal benefits too.

If you don't feel like it or your breasts feel too tender or whatever, then say no as you would at any other time.

Um, no! There is nothing wrong with sex during pregnancy unless you don't want to.

There are certain instances in which you shouldn't do it but other than that its fine.

If you don't want to have sex because it feels wrong then tell your partner so.

Thats your call.

Personally I think its absolutley fine.

Pretty boring 9 months with no hanky panky

Orgasms whilst pregnant are the best I've ever had. If you have no medical reason and a willing partner I can't see any reason not to.

it's a very personal thing. doubt your DP would be happy with no sex for the full nine months but why not discuss it with him and see how he feels? my DH finds it "too weird" after I get to a certain whale like size because he can't stop thinking about the baby, something i totally understand, but no problem earlier on.

nope. love it! I am huge now though (39+4) and DP is slightly less up for it but still willing if it helps get this baby out [hsmile]

I have 3 dc.

With 2 of them I went into labour the morning/evening after sex.

With No3 I was in hospital (other issues) and had to be induced!

No sex for 9 (well, actually when you include after - 10 or 11) months - stuff it, no way!!!!

We love it as much as ever! Didn't feel like this so much in last two pregnancies (and DH found it quite frustrating), but really up for it at the moment!!!

I'm 16 weeks and our sex life has just fallen flat. The last 2 weeks or so I might have been persuaded but DH has been ill and busy with work, unable to take time off so he hasn't initiated anything and when I've thought I might he's been the knackered one!

Be aware that it is quite common for sex to cause a small amount of bleeding in early pregnancy, because as I've found out that can be quite scary!

So far so good...DH is now scared to grip my waist, though. Am only 22 weeks and think he's being silly! He'll probably get more scared as I get bigger.

I have struggled a bit and my sex life has suffered - but mainly because I just feel sick all the time. Very difficult to feel horny when feeling so rubbish - and now very tired and big and uncomfortable. However, we still haven't abstained completely :-) and if I felt better I think we would have carried on as normal :)

What is a waste? haha
I have to admit i was totally off it in 1st tri but am now particularly frisky...did i actually say that...i am 26wks and very big but im very up for it although it is already a bit of a physical challenge with spd and a friar tuck belly i am unsure how long we will be able to continue.

Why ever not? As long as you feel like it and it's safe then do it!

You can't have sex afterwards due to bleeding and after giving birth to DD last time I bled for 8 weeks, so making the most of it now before DD number 2 is born!

In my first trimester I went off sex completely and to be honest my OH was a little put off the idea if he actually witnessed any of my throwing up sessions that day. So our sex life took a dramatic dive. Now my sex drive is returning to normal and I see no problem with it.

ExH never so much as put an arm around my shoulders while I was pg and it was soul destroying for me. If you don't feel up to sex, explain why to your partner, make him feel loved in other ways.

i'm certainly up for it! hubby isnt so much, but then again im the size of a freekin house currently. Think the only time i went off it was at the start due to HG and generaly feeling crappy or sleepy!

There's no reason not too - but I'm finding lately that I just don't want to! Doesn't help that every time we do I seem to get a UTI...

Luckily DP is a lovely, patient man!