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Pregnancy

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Just need a whinge

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 15:07

I'm 32 weeks and I'm fed up. Haven't been sleeping well the last week or so, and I keep getting these horrible bouts of breathlessness. Thankfully I'm on half term this week, but I was hoping to get some work done around the house and it's just not happening.

My DH is a pet but I feel bad ordering him around and trying to get him to do housework when he's been at work all day and I've been on the couch doing nothing.

I feel like it's far too early for me to be feeling this incapacitated - I have 2 months to go! I hate being such a whiny moaner. The last time I had my iron checked it was borderline so I'm going to get it checked again on Friday when I see the midwife. I've been taking vitamins with iron in so hopefully it won't be a huge problem. Anyone have any words of comfort/wisdom to offer?

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hazchem · 27/10/2010 15:11

No comfort but am feeling the same at the moment everything is so much effort ( oh i.m only 22 weeks) I'm hoping it will pass soon!

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 15:15

Well it's a comfort at least to have a fellow sufferer! I do feel to an extent that there is pressure to love pregnancy and to be super positive about it. I am beyond excited about my baby but pregnancy is a huge drag.

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hazchem · 27/10/2010 15:20

i have moments where i go wow being pregnat is very cool but most of the time i feel it's quite hard work. for instance i really wish i would stop bursting into tears when things aren't sad! I'm struggeling to watch TV as pretty much what every is on i'll cry at.

Cakemuncher · 27/10/2010 15:23

You have my full sympathy and I can related completely to your post.

I would say that if your DH is willing to help, let him! I know what you mean about feeling bad about ordering DH around. My own has been similarly brilliant and, even though, like yours, he is coming home at the end of a day at work to do housework, cooking etc, he doesn't mind. I think, to be honest, doing this kind of thing makes hubbies and partners feel useful. We are doing busy work growing babies, even when we can't get off the sofa! I think when my DH sees me toiling, he feels a bit useless becuase he can't do anything to help me ut doing practical things really does.

Different women have different levels of energy throughout pregnancy. A friend of mine had amazing levels of energy while I have struggled quite a bit through mine. The borderline iron probably isn't helping and you might be as well to ask for a supplement. I took a supplement called Sytron - it's liquid iron so it's a bit easier on the tum. If, like me, iron makes you, ahem, constipated, you could try lactulose solution along with it.

32 weeks is final semester so it's not that early to feel so rubbish - don't beat yourself up too much. Guessing you are a teacher, as am I - not surprised you need your half-term to rest. You'd need it even if you weren't 32 weeks pregnant!

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 15:24

God yeah tell me about it! I was bawling my eyes out at the tv yesterday when my DH came home from work and he was really concerned. I told him it was just pointless crying (god knows he's used to it at this stage) but he was still quite upset and was trying to make me feel better the poor love.

It was so embarrassing in school too when the kids were doing religious rituals in RE and I was trying to cry quietly in the classroom when we were watching the video about funerals. Some of the kids noticed and asked me about it afterwards, I was so mortified I just denied everything

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mumatron · 27/10/2010 15:31

i know exactly how you are feeling.

i'm 32 weeks and i have no idea how i'm going to get through the next 8 weeks.

i'm getting no more than an 4 hours sleep a night and my chest is just ridiculous. i have never needed to use my asthma pump so much!

i already have 2 dc and i feel so sorry for them. i have taken this week off to spend with them and we haven't left the house

if your dh is happy to help then let him. if he is like mine he probably like to feel like he is looking after you.

heres hoping the next 8 weeks fly for the both of us.

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 15:40

Mumatron the ridiculous pregnancy tears are threatening because of your lovely post! I don't know how I would cope if I had kids to look after as well as feeling shit. I'm sure the kids are secretly enjoying the quiet time. I hope they're not acting up too much!

I'm dreading going back to work next week, although I think when I have to force myself through the day it is easier in a way. Once I get the chance to relax I fall to bits completely!

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mumatron · 27/10/2010 15:55

writer i cry all the time. i cried at 'deadliest catch' last night, a tv programme about fishing! have a good cry anyway, i always feel better after.

i can't wait to finish work, and i'm regretting my decision to work until 10th of dec now.

my baby is breech at the mo and i don't think that is helping my chest much.

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 16:09

I still haven't let work know when I'm finishing (I'm not being replaced so it doesn't matter hugely) but I'm thinking it'll be the 3rd for me. Although I'm sure sitting at home does me no good. I am dying to get up and do something but as soon as I do I feel like shit and have to sit down. So annoying.

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mumatron · 27/10/2010 16:23

i had to tell mine ages ago, i'm not on official ml until 17th but have some leave left over.

i know i would be bored stupid if i finished any earlier, but god i'm tired! i have also switched off from work mode iyswim. so it's pretty pointless me even being there but i can only have 9 months off after and want as much as poss with the lo.

do you know if your having a boy or girl?

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 16:27

I'm having a boy. What about you?

I think part of what's getting to me is pure impatience. I want to see my baby NOW lol. People keep telling me to take advantage of this time before he's here but I've had enough of him not being here :)

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mumatron · 27/10/2010 19:50

a girl, really wanted another boy though. i have one of each already.

i'm bored of waiting now, i just want her to come out! especially with an edd so close to xmas. i really hope she comes before. knowing my luck she will be right on schedule though.

my others were 2 days early and 2 days late

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 19:59

I'm due on Christmas Day! I'm really hoping he's a little bit early. MIL reckons he'll be a week early, I hope she's right! I don't fancy being in hospital over Christmas and waking up on Christmas morning with a new baby would be amazing. Oh god the tears are coming again. Sigh.

You have two others do you? What ages?

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mumatron · 27/10/2010 20:20

ds is 10 at the begining of dec and dd is 6. they are both very excited.

im due on xmas eve, it would be lovely to have the baby then but in reality it would be a nightmare!

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WriterofDreams · 27/10/2010 20:53

Those are great ages. I was 7 when my sister was born and it was really fantastic, I helped out a lot and I got to see her grow up. We have a great relationship now. Are they sympathetic to how you feel? Are they helping you out? It's going to be such a special Christmas for them!

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