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Is it the worst thing in the world to have a Christmas baby?

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decafgirl · 14/09/2005 19:08

Hi everyone,

I'm coming off the pill soon and being the forward planner that I am I've been looking at dates etc and have figured out that if by some miracle I get pregnant quite quickly (after all my folic acid of course) I could end up being due on or very close to Christmas.

I know it's not the end of the world but has anyone avoided ttc during those early months for exactly that reason or am I just plain bonkers to be even thinking like this?!

I realise loads of people have xmas babies but it would seem to be extra stressful for my first.

Any advice?
xx

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moozoboozo · 15/09/2005 11:21

And in a soppy schmaltzy kind of way, DS was the best Christmas pressie I could have asked for (just as well, because the presents DP bought me were shite!!!!)

ei23mummy · 15/09/2005 12:43

hi there i think you might aswell just stop thinkin about when your child is giong to be born and get down to buisness!! it took me and my dp nine months to concieve and our first is due on 28th dec!! im absolutely over the moon as i started to feel like it was never going to happen!! dont bother yourself with worry about when it would be born, just concentrate on making your baby first and it wont matter to you when its due just that your having a baby at all!! iykwim! the only thing about having a christmas baby is that if i went into labour on christmas day i would not be able to enjoy my christmas dinner!!! hehe

Enid · 15/09/2005 12:46

oh dont be silly

dd1 was born on Dec 20th and we always have a lovely time - you have to be a bit more imaginative about parties etc but you can also take mates to a trip to the panto which is fab.

Anyway you'd have to conceive Mar/april so its a bit specific.

I'd be more worried about having an August baby myself (the school thing) but seriously, the nice thing about babies is that they are unpredictable and throw all your nice theories of life out of the window (obviously sometimes a bad thing depending on your personality)

cod · 15/09/2005 12:46

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Enid · 15/09/2005 12:47

I think October

cod · 15/09/2005 12:48

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littlerach · 15/09/2005 12:50

I'd agree with you Enid, that August isn't so good.
DD2 is August baby and will be so tiny!

DD1 is a March baby, spot on I think.

Enid · 15/09/2005 12:50

October = cosy in the house, nice comfort food, Christmas coming, have a tiny weeny baby under the tree, brilliant for school

novadandypowder · 15/09/2005 12:57

I can't believe this is coming up as an issue! It strikes me as very sad that people are considering the fact that they can't have an outside party or might have joint presents as a good reason for not ttc.

A baby should be born out of love and desire, not out of convenience.

Sorry, 33wks pg and hormones raging today

dramaqueen72 · 15/09/2005 13:03

I just love the pg ladies on this thread! well said nova. spot on.
ds is born jan 15th and I never think 'oh no how tiresome to be 2 wks after christmas. ever. and if this little guy i am due with now arrives bang on christmas day I will be thrilled, not horrified or shallow about it.

moyasmum · 15/09/2005 13:50

Decafgirl- Like Enid My dd1 was born on 20th Dec , in spite of me planning for a March birth! You cant change what is ,so you just plan 'inside' parties rather than picnics!Little friends are always about unlike during the summer hols so theres really no problem .

swiperfox · 15/09/2005 13:56

My DD was very much born out of love and affection and I wouldn't change that for the world.

Doesn't change the fact that having a baby born on xmas day isn't very nice for hundreds of reasons. Not just for us as parents but for the children.

puddle · 15/09/2005 14:03

I agree about March. Optimum time but means you'll have to wait until next summer to concieve! DP and I are both december babies and it's great now - we have a joint party which marks the start of the party season for us. I hated it as a child though. The worst birthday I can think of is the week after new year, especially when you are an adult - no one has the money or the inclination to celebrate with you! Most people are on diets/ the wagon/ economy drives.

Kelly1978 · 15/09/2005 14:03

my db has a bday 16th december and has always loved sharign it with xmas. He insists the deccies are out up before his bday. As a teen he loved getting big presents with xmas and bday money combined.
I also have a friend born on boxign day. Had a few great parties, boxign day down the pub. was nice havign soemthing to celebrate the day after, and with everyone in a festive mood, the parties were really good!

4kids · 15/09/2005 14:47

My dd2 bday is new years day & dt's is on the 9th jan twins are to young to understand but dd2 gets a raw deal christmas pressies & birthday the week after she never recieves as much on her bday as by then everyone has run out of money or combines the pressies.

bundle · 15/09/2005 15:46

SIL has Christmas Eve birthday, think she finds it a bit depressing having all her pressies at once

ei23mummy · 15/09/2005 18:32

wow this is turning into quite a debate!!!! i agree 100%with nova and say the same- people should be grateful that theyv got their little babies at all!! some people go their whole lives wishing for a slice of the baby pie and never get it!! so whether its a christmas, new year, valentine, someone elses birthday etc baby it should be welcomed whatever time it makes an appearance! personally i think its worse if your child happens to be born in the summer months as 1) you would be heavily pg during the heatwaves, 2) its sooooo much more expensive for holidays etc and 3) everyone else is planning for them months so your child has to share its birthday with almost everyone else in their class at school!! (there was 2 others in my class in juniors with the same birthday as me!)
its personal preference really and if you really are serious about having kids a little thing like what date its birthday is on shouldnt even be an issue!!
ok rant over! see you guys later!

SenoraPostrophe · 15/09/2005 18:40

I think christmas is a very good time to have a baby: they'll be relatively old in the school year and its much easier to keep tiny babies warm in winter than cool in summer.

also you don't have to be heavily pregnant in summer.

it's not so nice for them to have a birthday near christmas, but I plan to get around that for ds by celebrating his saints day (in april I think).

BeachedWhale · 15/09/2005 18:50

Xmas is a magical time to have a baby. DD was born on 23rd Dec last year. My only worry was that I needed to be out of hospital by Xmas day to be with our DT's but DD was very co-operative and I had a v. staightforward birth and made it home in time! We had our best Xmas ever. Don't know how we will deal with parties etc and won't worry about it.
TTC for ages and had many problems to have the DT's so having DD (a completely surprise pregnancy) was amazing and Xmas made it all the more special.
When you get pregnant you will worry about everything! The date of birth will be very low on your list of priorities. Babies will come when they want to and there is nothing you can do about it. Relax and enjoy it. Wishing you lots of luck TTC!

Jimjams · 15/09/2005 18:50

my birthday's xmas day.

ds2 17th jan

ds3 4th jan

It's not a big deal.

SleepyJess · 15/09/2005 18:51

Noooo.. DD was born just before Christmas 98.. I cherish those memories.. it IS a magical time to have a newborn

Fio2 · 15/09/2005 18:58

er dont dfo what we did, we all ds dh dd and me have birthdays within 5 weeks of each other (all winter) duurrr

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decafgirl · 15/09/2005 21:36

Thanks everyone! It's great that so many people are positive about Christmas birthdays - I can see that it would be lovely to get a present that special (and if I'm in hospital I won't have to put up with my mother-in law's hideous Christmas dinner ha ha)

I appreciate that to have a healthy baby is all that matters but as a novice I was just keen to canvass opinions! I will be overjoyed to have a baby at any time of the year as I know only too well how traumatic ttc without success can be.

I can see the point of not trying too hard for an August birthday - youngest in the school year can really make a difference for some children. Also, all the medical staff move up one, so to speak, in August so you could potentially have a newbie helping you deliver. I think I'm beginning to talk myself out of ever conceiving at this rate!

Good luck to everyone who's ttc and an advance 'happy birthday' too all those xmas birthdays who replied!

xxx

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flutterbee · 19/09/2005 17:15

I know I'm a couple of days late on this one but I just have to say that when I found out that I was pregnant I was over the moon, then when I was told I was due on the 18th December I was not just over the moon but mars saturn pluto you get the idea. The thought of having a brand new little baby cuddled up to me smelling all babyish whilst the xmas lights twinkle and the snow falls (if the latest weather reports are to be believed)just makes me want to cry with happiness I just can't wait. And yes I know this may sound all over romantic and bleary eyed but I know for the first time since childhood Xmas will indeed be an amazing magical time for me.
Also my Mum had her first child at Xmas he was due 4 days before my first is due but was born on the 30th December and he is now 34 and wouldn't change when he was born his day has always been his day and now his B-day celebrations just carryu on over to New Year celebrationsn in fact I think the whole Xmas week is a blur for him and he loves it.

nutcracker · 19/09/2005 17:32

2 of my 3 kids were born in december and no it's not a terribly bad thing at all, maybe a bit stressful at times but not awful or anything.

Dd2 was born on 12th december 5 weeks early and spent 2 weeks in SCBU finally coming home on boxing day so that was a bit of a different xmas and was a bit hard on our other dd but we got through it.

Ds was then born on 6th December 3 years later and again it had it's probs cos hew had to stay in for a week and we missed Dd2's birthday, but we just moved it as she didn't know any different really.

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