To visit family or not 6 weeks before due date

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Hi

I live about 400 miles away from my family in Cornwall, I am currently 15 weeks pregnant but am thinking about going to visit them for a week at the beginning of my maternity leave (6 weeks before due date). As this is my first pregnancy, does this sound mad to you experienced mums?

I really don't want to work too late and also don't want to sit around at home for 6 weeks either.

Appreciate any views....

Many thanks

Should be fine in terms of being there and I'm sure there are plenty of hospitals around if you should need it, the only thing is the trip might be arduous when your 34 weeks, you'll be feeling big and awkward and you won't want to be stick in one position for too long.

You may not be able to go TBH even if you want to. I'm 33 weeks now and have just been diagnosed with OC, which means lots of blood tests and appointments, plus me being nervous about being out of reach of my (lovely) hospital.

I'd also struggle with the trip, even if DH drove and we stopped every hour or so! Travelling first class by train would be more possible, but expensive. If you develop bad SPD or PGP, it would be impossible - I have SPD but luckily it's mostly under control.

Maybe work out logistics now but then wait to see how you feel nearer the time before confirming anything.

You should be okay in terms of not giving birth (although that didn't work for David Cameron!) but second what the others say. I'm 32 weeks pregnant and get really bad back ache if I have to be in the car for longer than an hour which just gets worse, not to mention restless legs.

With my DD we went to Cornwall from Yorkshire and i had the worst rib pain and I was only 28 weeks. You may be okay but staying in the same position for hours may be a big ask and pretty tiring.

Thanks so much for your comments, I think you have confirmed what I was thinking anyway, I just didn't want to get my mum and dads hopes up by suggesting it. The problem is I have no holiday left from work between now and christmas and have to work over christmas too.

I will just have to suggest they come and visit me instead, at least they can then wait on me hand and foot .

Thanks guys x

oh i would totally go! i see i am the only one tho lol

i travelled almost that far to stay with IL's at 34 weeks with my first baby. was absolutely fine

It'll be fine. Take your bag with you and your notes, just in case.

I went to visit friends some 3-4 hours away 3 week's before my due dae, and on my actual due date went for a family meal over an hour away from home too. Heck, I even moved home 2 week's before my due date, lol.

I went to my aunt and uncle's ruby wedding party, which was 250 miles or so from where we live, about six or seven weeks before my due date for my dd. Didn't find it too bad, just took a hospital bag, just in case!

I would go as long as I was feeling up to it when I got there. Did a lot of travelling when I was heavily pregnant with DD and generally managed OK

Thank you, I suppose I can wait and see how I feel at the time, DH would come too and he can normally go at short notice as he works from home and can realistically work from anywhere as long as he has broadband.

I suppose its not as if im on holiday away from home, I will be in the house I grew up in near to the hospital i was born in (and david camerons new daughter too).

I stayed with my family (about 4.5 hours drive away) 2 weeks before birth. MIL helpfully rang the local hospital and checked out the procedures/facilities for me just in case.

I'm flying half way across the world (well, a 7 hour flight + 2 hour drive) to get home at 35 weeks. Also planning trips on train to see friends around country after that as I haven't seen them for ages due to living abroad. I'd totally go. Get the train.

If you have a pretty healthy pg then you should be fine, so pencil it in, just warn them that if you do get bad SPD or something then the plan may have to be cancelled.

I wouldn't have been up for such a long journey at that stage.

Once I had a decent sized bump I found it hard to breathe when I was sitting down, car journeys were a PITA.

You really might be fine but think about lots of stops if you do go.

i'd go. it'll be a lovely treat to be waited on and spoiled by your family before the baby comes.

you can always change your mind if you're not feeling up to it.