Help! Horrible, morbid thoughts

[excitedmummy2be]

I'm 39+1 and the fact I'm going to be having a baby... Very soon, still hasn't sunk in. So much so that I can't believe it's actually going to happen. I can barely bring myself to write this but I keep thinking the reason I feel this way is because it isn't going happen. Something bad will happen to the baby. I don't think about it allthe time but fairly often and am beginning to worry that I'm sensing something is wrong or is this just another common pregnancy worry? This is my first pg so probably over thinking it all! Anyone else felt these awful things?

YY, so normal, don't stress. It really is a surprise at the end of the pregnancy and birth to find that you have a REAL, little gorgeous baby.

I just had DC3 7 weeks ago and I've felt that way for each.

As for thinking something may be wrong. Again, so common. I seems that as soon as you get pregnant you just seem to worry. Not sure if it ever stops TBH!

99% of the time you're worrying for nothing.

A good friend told me once not to worry about something til it has happened and in most cases that is fair.

Congratulations and best of luck! :)

I feel hideously worried as well and have done since I found out pretty much. Just wanted to say you're not alone in worrying but the statistics are favourable!

Very normal. I conjured up all kinds of scenarios before and just after the birth (had a tough time)
Also was worried about DH going anywhere in case he had an accident.
It will pass though (gets you ready for people saying "just a phase!")
You will soon have your gorgeous baby in your arms and will forget about it.

I'm rather strange...didn't have a single worry with my first...not once! But from the minute I found out I was pregnant again I have not stopped worrying! I'm terrified about my first scan...at the mo I don't even wanna get change to buy scan photos as it might tempt fate! Writing that makes me realise how irrational I'm thinking!
As long as you're feeling movement (often a little less at ur stage of pg)...then I'd just look forward to holding you're beautiful baby!!
Good luck and Congrats! X

Until I have this baby in my arms I keep thinking something will happen. At first it was miscarriage, now it is still birth. I am terrified soemthing will go wrong during delivery, so much so I wont buy a pram or cot yet until he is born. I imagine when he is here I will be watching him constantly as the worry is unlikely to stop then. I know exactly how you feel. (35 weeks).

I recommend reading lots of positive birthing stories. (I liked Ina May's Guide to Childbirth) Or have you thought about using one of those hypnotherapy cds for birth? Or even just surrounding yourself with some positive thoughts for the birth to counter some of your fears, give you a coping mechanism, and make it seem more real. There's not a great deal you can do to prepare for birth, but controlling your fear can be achieved, even during and just before you go into labour. You don't have to buy into the fear, and you can turn your birth experience into something anticipated with joy. I wish I'd done this with my first.

excited I wrote a post on the same thing yesterday! as far as I can tell from the responses I got it's very normal especially in the last few weeks of pregnancy.

Thank you so much ladies! It's very reassuring that I'm not the only one. Am trying to keep very positive and keep the nasty thoughts at bay!

Agree, normal to worry! Surround yourself with positivity. Don't read anything sad or scary. Soon you will have your little one in your arms, I remember when my first baby was born, I just couldn't stop staring at her, just couldn't believe that I had grown a real baby! Forgot to even look if she was a girl or boy. You will be fine, don't worry. Just enjoy this last bit if you can. x

It sounds like it's fairly usual to be anxious approaching the birth. After years ttc and 2 mcs, I must confess that part of me thinks that something will go wrong, or that there will be something wrong with my baby when it's born.

I am very happily 26 weeks now, and all seems very well but somewhere inside I think its never going to work out for us.

Thankfully I am not superstitious, and I know that the odds are very greatly in my favour, and there is absolutely no reason to feel macabre, so I am enjoying this pregnancy most of the time.

This might sound crazy, but I sometimes like to write a list of the things that worry me.

On the left hand side, I write a list of things that worry me. Then on the right hand side, I add a column where I write WHY they worry me.

Then in the next column along to the right, I write down something I can do about it.

Sometimes it might say "nothing" or "get more sleep".

But it helps me separate those worries that I can act upon from those that I just need to accept.

Hi,

I know exactly what you mean I am 21 weeks and am so afraid that my waters are going to break to early or that if I do get to full turn that something is going to happen( people have been telling me such horrible stories), I know that its terribly morbid and god forbid that anything happens- Its just its my first baby and my Mum and Nan are so happy and I am so excited to be a mum and I just feel to scared to be happy with them! I just cannot wait till I at least get past 26 weeks seems to be taking forever!! Love to you all x