MIL's comments are getting on my nerves! Probably being oversensitive....

[moominmarvellous]

I'm 10 days overdue with DC2 tomorrow and am booked in to be induced, I was also induced with DD +10, she arrived at +13. I was happy with this arrangement, I know no different after all, but she keeps banging on about how I should keep things natural, and saying that she and FIL wish I would 'just start by myself'. I feel like I'm some sort of failure in her eyes - again!

She called us to announce a friends baby being born last week, and then text me seperately to tell me that the mother managed it with only gas and air. I know I'm probably being mean, and oversensitive but I feel like telling her to f off!!

Just as I'd forgotten all the 'helpful' comments regarding babies /winding/feeding/sleeping we had from them after DD - here we go again!!

It's your body, your baby - you can do whatever you like. I would be tempted to just tell her in no uncertain terms that, whilst you appreciate her concern, you're happy with your arrangements and you intend to stick with them.

If all else fails, let rip and then blame it on the hormones - you're never going to have a better excuse.

I god, what a pain in the bum she sound's like!!!

Babies come when they want to late or otherwise, and her horrible comments aren't helping (like it's not stressful enough)

As for the gas and air, well done to anyone that does it naturally, i have the "if i need it, i will have it" attitude. it's no one elses buisness what you decide to have.. it makes you no less of a woman or more supermum for going natural.

I don't blame you for wanting to tell her to F off i want to and don't know her lol.

Maybe just ignore her till little one arrives and when those un useful comments start flowing just say, "well i have done it once i know what i'm doing thanks"

P.s i hate my mother in law .. can you tell lol

good luck with bubba

x

I don't know why she's saying these things! I haven't said I'm anxious or worried, because I'm not really, which makes her comments all the more unwanted!

I have the same attitude as you xkatyx, in that I'll see how I get on as far as pain relief is concerned, I'm not worried about how anyone else has done it.

The thing is, the longer I go on, the bigger the baby will get and as a result the more likely I am to need intervention, so I wish she'd realise that and bog off!

She's also subtly harassed us into letting her have DD while I'm in labour when I'd already made arrangements with my (more local and more readily available) Mum & sisters. I know she wants to be involved too, and means no harm, but she never just says anything outright. It's always subtle hints and suggestions at the last minute when I've had this all aranged since before the due date.

I'm a right old moaner at the moment, really letting things get to me, and it's poor old MIL's turn today!

Ah i see, my MIL is opposite apart from thinking she knows best she is horrible to kids and never wants them lol

How annoying for you, say to her once baby gets here she can come round and cook and clean that would be great helo :-)

It's terrible isn't it? I said to DH that for most people it's the opposite problem!

Although tbh, she hasn't been that keen to have DD since she became that bit older, so now I can't help thinking it's partly because she wants to be first to the hospital as she has DD with her! V cynical of me, but I do think there might be a smidgen of truth in there....

Hmmm yeah does sound a bit like that.

To be honest it is very rare to come across anyone that gets along with there MIL , im jealous if they do, mine is so dam mean (devil woman)

Maybe say your mum has taken time off/ arranged plans so she can have DD so you cant cancel on her, then when little one calls leave it a little while before calling so you can have some time before she comes up driving you mad!!

You could try making her feel guilty about her induction comments. E.g. Sigh... Yes, I really wish the baby would 'come naturally' too. I'm so uncomfortable at the moment.

You get the picture.

Moominmarvellous if you get a good technique for handling MiL let me know :)

I get on with my MiL and Mum about the same - they both drive me bonkers. My MiL is very similar to yours, I've got 6 weeks left and she keeps offering to 'look after' baby things for me, we've got everything either second hand off family, friends and eBay or new. Why does it make sense for her to store them, when I'm going to need them soon.

She also drops little comments into conversation, but she contradicts herself, so next week she will tell me the complete opposite.

Unfortunately, both Mum and MiL live a 20 minute drive away. They are both different in their approaches, so I can see lots of irrelevant advice.

moomin I feel for you - I have the same problem but opposite details. MIL/SIL think bfing is 'disgusting' and tell me to 'take all the painkillers they offer you because that's what they're there for'. It's awful. Luckily my own family and DP are very supportive but I'm worried about them descending on me after DC1 arrives when I'm trying to establish bfeeding - not what you need!

Good luck (try changing your mobile number?!) x