Is it normal

[nicole86]

Morning All...

Hoping you can put my mind at ease!

Im 24 and have been with my partner 5 years.. we have always talked about children and wanted them but have been waiting until we had done enough together as a couple.
On Monday i did 3 pregnancy tests and they were all positive - i cried.
I have since been to midwife for initial appt got my scan booked and told family and i just feel sooo miserable!
I cant stop crying and keep questioning have i done the right thing! The past 12 months ive been very active and loving exercise and im worried im going to lose it all..
I feel so ungrateful because i know there are people that would kill to be in my position but i just cant smile about it!
Please can somebody tell me this is normal and will pass?? x

how does your partner feel? i must admit even though both ds and expectant dc were planned i did have the feel sometimes of 'oh god what have i done' could be hormonal, early weeks were the worst for me both times. maybe you and oh could go away for a weekend to support eachother with no other distractions

My OH is over the moon, he cant stop grinning :) He is a few years older than me and has always wanted children so he is really happy! I think i may be deep down i just dont feel it, just feel scared and panicked!

I sometimes think that's why we're pregnant for so long; so we can get our heads round it! Hormones won't be helping and as pp said even the planned pregnancies can feel overwhelming!

Hopefully by your 12 week scan your fear may be turning to excitement.

Congratulations btw!

Sorry to ask but I wasn't entirely sure from your OP- this was a planned pregnancy? Do you feel as though you've done everything you wanted to before kids?

I think it's normal to be a bit unsure, it is such a big life change. I know I had times during my first pregnancy when I felt like the baby was just a huge extra complication, and my life was quite hectic enough without it. I also had the feelings of panic about how I would cope, and whether it was actually what I wanted in the first place (even though I had been desperate for a baby for a couple of years). Feelings don't have to have any basis in logic IME! And of course the hormones don't help.

However, if it helps I can also say that having my DD is the best thing I've ever done. Yes, there are really hard times but parenthood is such an amazing experience. And there's no reason you can't continue to be active and do a lot of the things you are used to- it just needs a little more planning.

Thank you.. I am excited its just overwhelming, i guess i genuinely thought it would take longer. Its also because we have been so active with weekends away, holidays and im really into my gym classes its going to be a big change... but like you said it just takes planning etc and we can still do things.
Oh there is so much to think about!! I think i will enjoy the support on here in the coming months! x

Hello!! im 20 and when i went for my scan at 12 weeks i was actually 24 weeks gone! i think i had a mini heart attack!! i was happy to be pregnant but it is a shock and to be so far into the pregnancy well i just couldnt believe it!
i'll be a single mum (very happy to do so), but after that scan i think i spent a week in bed curled up in a ball! haha! but then i pulled myself together, this baby will be the happiest most content little boy in the world and i will make sure of it!
trust me i think once you get your head around it you will feel the same!

Also there is no reason why it has to change your life completely... We still have weekends away (both with and without dd), we go to nice restaurants with her (have done from a young age and now at almost 4 she is perfectly behaved when we go), dd has been to Australia 3 times already and many other great holidays.

I am 36 weeks and was still doing Body Combat etc until a few weeks ago. My gym has a crèche and I hope to still get there a few times a week when the new one arrives, like pp it just takes a bit more planning.

Thanks LoubyLoubyLouLa that's made me feel a lot better, esp the Body Combat part..........
I am feeling a lot happier today, iv visited all my friends with children and found that most of them felt like this at the beginning, even the ones which I thought would have been ex-static from day 1.
Thanks again ladies :) x