ohgodohgodohfuckfuckityfuckfuck pregnant number one only 6months old

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I can barley see to type for crying I have had these popping feelings in my abdomen for a few weeks, did a test today and its positive, DD is only 6months old, I am about to return to work, I cannot be pregnant, we cant afford it, I don't want to be, I cannot do it all again so soon, I just cant. I have noone to tell, DH at work, My friend has just told ne she is pregnant, and I dont want to steal her thunder or upset her with how upset I am about it. oh go what am I going to do?!

Okay first thing is to calm down. You need to go to doctor and get scan asap so you can accurately date the baby. This means you will know what options open to you in terms of abortion etc. You also need to tell dh this evening and face it together. Whatever you decide it will be okay - at the moment you are in shock.
Thinking of you. xx

Oh poppet I feel for you - DS3 will be 22 months when DC4 is born in December, and I remember feeling upset that there was a small gap when I found out, and how was I going to cope with 4, and on and on. your brain goes into overdrive and no matter how 'miraculous' getting pg is, it's not always the happiest moment of your life finding out.
The most important thing to do is to make sure you make the right decisions, together, and that you're both happy with the consequences of whichever choice you make.
Although I have 3 (and a half) DC's, deep in my past I had to make the decision to have 2 TOP's. It's not an easy choice to make, but if you make it for the right reasons, you won't regret it. Similarly, if you and DH decide to go ahead with it, then, if you have laid out the reasons WHY you both want to go ahead with it, then you'll be fine.
Of course, life's not simple, and you may find that you and DH disagree - I hope this doesn't happen for you, but if it does, then I hope you can both come to some kind of agreement - but do seek help from other professionals or friends wherever you can - it can really help.
Sending lots of virtual hugs