Weight gain

[RoxieP]

I am 28 weeks and already I have gained just over 2 stone. Is this too much?

I am 5'6" and at the time I found out I was pregant, I was 11stone 2lb and had just started dieting, as I still hadn't lost my xmas weight and was feeling big for me (about size 14) and wasn't happy with my weight at all! (normally my weight hovers at about 10.5 stone and I am size 10-12) But obviously when I found out I stopped...

At my first midwife's appointment I asked if she would sign my form so I could go to slimming world, as apparently their plan is safe to follow when pregnant, but she refused saying that pregnancy isn't a time to diet...

So, by the time I was about 20 weeks I was up to just under 13stone and started to panic so I started to follow the slimming world plan myself as I still had all the stuff form a previous time being a member. I managed to maintain my weight until recently when I decided I was bored and wanted to just try and listen to my body and eat healthily so stopped following the plan. Thing is I am not very good at that and I have already started to gain (about 4lbs so far - up to about 13st 3-4lbs) and am feeling very unhappy with myself. I have a big issue with my weight anyway, and I know everyone gains weight when they are pregnant but I just hate feeling fat! I look horrible, I have a massive bum and my face is round and chubby! Plus everyone seems to have gained much less than me by this stage and I don't want to put on loads more!

Anyone out there in the same boat? Any advice?

When i was pregnant with my first ds i put on 5stone! Normally i was size 12 5"7 and weighed 10lb - 10lb.6

This time when i got pregnant i weighed 9stone and put on 1 stone within the first 12 weeks, since then i've put on at least another 2 stone if not 3...BUT i havent been weighed for a while and i'm trying my hardest not to get weighed again till a good few months after ds2 is born. Try not to get upset about it - easier said than done - i was obsessed with my weight too. BUT the weight does come off! I didnt 'try' with my ds1 but it all gradually came off and i was back to my normal size in 18months or so. I believe if i'd tried to loose weight after he was born then it would of come of alot quick so try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy :)

i'ms stuggeling a bit myself had almost got to my goal weight just before finding out i was pregant. It's been tricky as it's ben such a long time since i haven;t been dieting ( i did weight watchers) i don;t really know what a normal non diet amount is. I've also cut back on exersize as i have found the morning too hard to get out of bed.

I have however continued with pilates and have started doing a tap class. in two weeks i'll also start doing an antenatel streach class. also on the weekend my partner takes me out for breakfast but we have a big hill to walk up before it's breakfast!

Sorry I didn't mean to blab on about myself the whole time.

What i meant to say is try to make sure you fill up with healtish food and do some exerersize. Don't try to lose weight now. focus on another healthy eating goal. like 5 a day or 8 glass of water or 30 minutes moving 5 days a week. They will make you feel better too.
Good luck! we will lose the weight once the babies arrive!

I put on heaps first trimster some second trimester and hardly any third trimster, I think give yourself a break, increase your fruit and veg intake and drink heaps of water but don't try dieting

I've found this calculator helpful as it takes into account your pre-pregnancy BMI and how many weeks you are:
www.gurgle.com/tools/pregnancy_weight_gain_calendar/default.aspx

I was just at the midwife's today and had her weigh me. I have put on 12kg so far and am 38wks today. I started out at approx 9 1/2 stones and am now almost 11 1/2. I wanted her to weigh me because I was worried that my all of a sudden urge to keep eating was putting me into the too much weight gain category, but she assured me I am within normal expectations....

Thanks everyone for your advice - I feel quite reassured! I tried that calculator thing japhrimel, and the upper limit is exactly what I am now, so I'm at the very top end but at least I'm not way over!

I sympathise with you hazchem, I have spent my whole life on and off some diet or other so I don't really know what "normal" eating is! I feel a bit out of control when I don't have a diet plan to stick to! And every time I've gained a bit of weight in the past I've just thought "oh I'll diet for a while now" and I know I'll get back to normal, whereas when you're pregnant you can't really do that, and at this stage I know I'm going to get a lot bigger before I can get any smaller!

Do you know what the worst thing is? I was actually feeling alright with myself for a while and quite philosophical about my weight gain, but I've realised a couple of things have caused me to start to panic. Firstly I don't usually read "pregnancy" magazines but the other day while I was waiting to see the midwife I had a flick through a couple. Has anyone noticed that they are full of pictures of these tiny little models with neat little bumps and pert boobs, slender thighs and tiny bottoms who look like they haven't gained an ounce anywhere else? I think I started to think that I should be looking like that. I think they should have more realistic images, especially as it is a time when women will be feeling most self-conscious about their figure. It's not as if they're fashion glossies trying to sell clothes is it?

Also, perhaps worse of all, this weekend I'm going up to London (I used to live there) and I'm meeting all my old girlfriends, most of which haven't seen me since I've been preg. They're all saying they can't wait to see the bump etc. but I can't help thinking they'll all judge me on how fat I am and I wish I was this yummy mummy with a neat, pretty bump when in fact my skin is bad and I haven't got anything decent to wear! I know really that these are my oldest and dearest friends and this is the last thing that they will be thinking though. Isn't it funny how competitive us women are about our weight? I know that my weight doesn't bother my partner in the slightest and that he always finds me sexy whatever I look like and I honestly believe him, but I always worry more about what other women think!

Anyway thank you all and sorry about the rant - on reception duty at work and got lots of time to kill!