Male colleagues daily comments on weight/eating

[taurustaurus]

For the last few weeks my male colleagues have taken upon themselves to analyse what I am eating.. and have said things to me like its only for your benefit as we do not want your bum" etc to get too big- "oh should you really be eating that".. "are you eating again"... Now I know I am pregnant and sensitive but I just want to know what the public thinks and are they in agreement that these comments are 100% inappropiate!!!. I am six months pregnant and barely showing (I am a size ten and a regular gym goer so hardly what you would call overweight/unfit) so I know there is no malice in this office banter! I just can not believe men can be so stupid as to comment on such a taboo subject... any thoughts or experiences much appreciated.

Just say 'shut up' or 'fuck off' depending on how liberal you working environment is

Years ago a male manager at a company I worked at said to me that I needed to be careful eating a cake as my weight would suffer. I just looked at him and said:
"It's ok, I'll start to worry when I get close to your size".

I feel for you. My DH has a pregnant woman in the department he works in at the moment. They have a collegue who constantly says "oh you only need another 200 calories a day, and thats only in the last trimester" every single time she eats, according to my DH, this is said several times over the day.

Luckily my DH knows better than to say stupid things like this to a pregnant woman and he has told his collegue that he is lucky xxx hasn't thumped him yet. I said tell him if I was there I would have twatted him a long time ago for saying such stupid things.

I suggest you calmly tell them that you don't appreciate their 'jokes' and could they please stop commenting. If they don't Iw ould take it to your manager/supervisor. It isn't on.

Tell them that when they are able to be pregnant, they can comment. Until then, they can piss off.

If it's upsetting you then do something. It sounds a bit like bullying/harrassment to me - male colleagues should not be commenting on your body at work, it's not professional. I'd talk to them quietly, one on one, and if that doesn't achieve anything then talk to HR. But I am now 8 months pregnant and everyone is pissing me off, I woke up a sleeping man on the tube today to boot him out of the priority seat (mind you I was about to be trampled).

They are being out of order. Okay pregnancy is not an illness, but it's a condition. How would it be if you had any other condition which affected your eating habits? That would be unacceptable to comment on.

Tell them that it is inappropriate to make any comments relating to your appearance or dietary needs. Be polite and factual. Control your emotions and composure, and under no circumstances use foul language (cotrary to what others on this thread suggest)... If your male colleagues continue to harrass you, and the situation becomes unbearable, you should go the head of HR and file a formal grievance.

It would be unacceptable if you weren't pregnant so it's certainly not right when you are. I would have smacked all of them a long time ago if I were you so it's fortunate I'm not.

I'm with lilly13, a calm but assertive conversation in which you make clear that their comments are not appropriate, nor are they wanted.

No matter how tempting, resist the urge to tell them to cock off, or is it just me that would....