just got a bfp with #1 and soo scared

[clairebear88]

hiya

We have been trying for 3.5 yrs for #1 and as I was 5 days late I did a test last night and it was bfp. I am so shocked and still cant believe it as thought we would have to go down the IVF/IUI route. I dont know what to do about anything, whether to tell work or leave it until 12 weeks.
Sooo chuffed but sooo nervous too. I am 33 yrs old so should be ready for this but am scared. I no so many things can go wrong as I had a MC 12 yrs ago at 13 weeks

Any words of encouragent would be gratefully received.

Congratulations

Try not to worry (easier said than done I know).....enjoy the excitment.

Personally I would not say anything at work just yet unless I was in contact with chemicals etc that would put the baby at any risk.

thanx miss norty.
No just got an office job so can sit there and enjoy. They have booked a team building day to thorpe park in a couple of weeks so will have to make up some excuse lol.

I really will try and enjoy this i promise

x

Congratulations Clairbear! I had a mc before having my gorgeous son, so do try not to worry.

I probably wouldn't say anything to my work for a while - enjoy your little secret for a while and I hope the next 13 weeks doesn't drag too much for you.

I am 5 weeks pregnant and 36. I was shocked too even though I had been trying for a year hehe. i wasnt going to tell my work but then felt so ill at work i had to tell my fave colleage in the end. Of course she is the bosses wife so they all know now. Typical. Any way im glad really because they will be understanding if i feel ill. But normally i would have just sat back and enjoyed my little secret :) It is scary being pregnant for all the things which can go wrong. I feel the same. But many many ladies have had an mc on an occasion and go on to have lovely health children. Your gunna be fine. Good luck and keep smiling :)

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

If you feel like some company or somewhere just to have a moan pop over to the due in June club here we're all very friendly :)

thanks girlies.
ill pop along to the thread attached thanks Humania.
oliveoil - would be good to see you on that thread if you are due in june too. I am 33 so also set in my ways and scared of change by hey ho.

x

Congratulations Claire!!

I'd tell one close friend at work only so you have someone to cover for you if/when the morning sickness kicks in. They might also be able to help you with excuses for Thorpe Park too.

12 weeks feels like an age, I was so worried when I got my BFP that I didn't sleep for 2 days. I must admit I didn't much like the first trimester much but the second trimester is allowing me to enjoy pregnancy a little more :)

Congrats! I am never sure about the 12 week thing - I can see not telling everyone, but a few people I think is agood idea, because you are happy and want to share, they can support you, and if anything (it won't) goes wrong, you have people who understand what's happening and can help.

I love Thorpe Park, as an aside - Stealth is cool fun!

Congratulations! I too am pg with my first child and have resolved not to tell anybody (outside of family) for 12 weeks. I'm 8 weeks now and am really struggling trying to disguise my nausea at work, find excuses to not drink when out with friends, all the usual things.

Enjoy your little secret until you decide the time is right to share your great news

I didnt tell anyone until after first scan as we had been trying a while and I wouldnt believe it myself until I had seen it (I kept thinking they would say there was nothing there it was all in my mind). It was hard in work as I had severe nausea and vomiting from week 4 but I had been ill prior to pregnancy so they just assumed it was a worsening of my condition. COngrats..stay relaxed take your prenatal vitamins and eat what you fancy if your feeling sick.

thanks for all your advice its a great help. i have done as you said and told 2 people in work which is my boss and team leader so at least they can take pressure off and cover for me if im poorly.luckily not been ill yet but have felt a bit queasy if im hungry.
i still cant believe it after trying for 3.5 yrs so pinching myself every day.

fingers crossed for us all
xxx

Hi Claire, just want to say I'm so pleased for you. That is such a lovely thing to read. My advice would be to take pregnancy warnings/scare stories with a pinch of salt and try to just trust your own judgement and your body. GOOD LUCK! x

Congratulations! I think I remember you from the TTC#1 thread. Good luck! xx

My rule of thumb on telling people is if you'd want them to support you in the event of a miscarriage then tell them ASAP. If not, keep quiet! So we told family and a handful of close friends early then held off till after the scan for telling the world at large. And I still haven't told work (14 weeks) because we're in the middle of a redundancy process and I figure it's a piece of information they don't need in the decision-making process

thanks for all your advice but it was taken out of my hands on friday as had a miscarriage at 6 wks . were devastated but what doesnt kill you makes you stronger. at least i know we can get pregnant now after trying for so long.

thanks again x

hi claire
not commented on your post before, but i followed it, hoping that your nervousness would go.

so sorry to hear about your mc. i hope you're doing ok. you're right, at least you know you can get pregnant. just keep trying.

we're all thinking of you xx

Oh Claire I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. My thoughts are with you x