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swelling hands and feet

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pinkyp · 14/10/2010 14:20

my partner noticed my hands and feet had swollen yesterday and i thought i'd give my mw a ring just to check everything is ok as last week my vision went funny and i had a headache (forgot to tell her) and i've also had a trace of protien in my urine (not last time but time b4), also been feeling a little sick occasionally, and not quite right.
After trying to ring her all morning her phone was switched off (it always is - i'm beginging to think she has a new number). So i phoned another community mw as i have a few numbers on my pregnancy notes, it rang but no answer sooooo i phoned the hospital antinatal day unit.The mw who answered was funny with me and told me off for not going to see my mw at her clinic yesterday (it was yesterday night that my partner said my feet/hands were swollen). She then told me off fornot ringing my mw as she was busy - i said i had but her phone was off. She then took my name and number and said leave it with her because she'salmost certian my mw is working (i'm not disputing that - i'm just after some advice). This was 11.30 am this morning and i still havent heard anything, shall i just leave it and see how i go? I dont really want to phone the hospital back now. :s

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TheMulledBloodsOnMe · 14/10/2010 14:22

What awful treatment you have had I'm angry on your behalf. Your symptoms sound like a cause for concern and if I were you I would go straight to see my GP. Then I would write a letter of complaint.

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pinkyp · 14/10/2010 14:37

oh i'm also really warm all the time - and feel a little shakey but my sleeping hasnt been great thanks to ds1 so might be to do with that. Might phone my gp after i pick ds
up from nursery, feel a bit silly for making a fuss.

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LondonL · 14/10/2010 14:42

Ignore the bad treatment and take care of yourself and baby. You and the baby are far more important than worrying about whether you're causing a fuss. You have a legitimate concern and they should be responsive. Please be persistent until you get answers and feel comfortable with what is going on.

It's too big of a risk to allow yourself to be passed off.
Please take care!

lynniep · 14/10/2010 14:46

Please ring back because the mw has probably forgotten about you. And try your own mw again. As others have said you are being fobbed off and you need to be checked. Do not feel silly for making a fuss and go and see your GP or even go to a walk-in clinic if there is one if you cant get a mw. Its probably nothing. But it might be something. Dont take the risk.

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pinkyp · 14/10/2010 17:21

thank u all, going to phone ward again as no callback and mw still switched off.

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NightLark · 14/10/2010 17:34

Do try to see someone. How far pg are you? I had this at 40+ weeks with my first and, although we were both absolutely fine, it was taken very seriously. Someone needs to check your blood pressure. I had to go into hospital as my BP was sky high (plus all the other symptoms you have listed).

ThatDamnDog · 14/10/2010 17:47

I had similar symptoms and the midwives took it extremely seriously, much more than I did in fact. Which was just as well because I spent 3 weeks in and out of hospital and it was only due to the community midwives insisting that they checked me over the weekend that my rocketing blood pressure was picked up and DD was hurried out the next day. Fortunately we are both fine but pre-eclampsia is not to be taken lightly. Pester them.

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pinkyp · 14/10/2010 22:32

well rang up again and it was the same mw as this morning, she said she'd thrown my number away by accident. She said i did need to have my blood pressure and urine checked and then said she didnt know what to suggest and have i phoned my own mw yet, i explained again i had but phone is off. In the end she said i could call up if i wanted or go see my gp, i asked if i could just nip up to get it over and done with she said yes. Felt a bit bad going because when i got there and on the phone she kept saying "if i told everyone with a bit of swelling to come to the ward i'd never get anything done.." Anyway bp was fine and there was a bit of protien in urine but nothing to worry about, so i did just waste everyones time really :(

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ThatDamnDog · 15/10/2010 06:58

No you didn't, and she was out of order to make you feel like you can't ask to be checked out. Not meaning to scare you but many of the times I went to hospital my BP was fine when I arrived. But blood tests showed problems were developing. So keep a close eye on things and get yourself checked again if you're not happy.

gastrognome · 15/10/2010 07:20

It sounds as though you were treated appallingly. Just because a mw is busy doesn't mean she has the right to make you feel guilty.

You certainly weren't wasting their time: you went with legitimate concerns about your/your baby's health and the mw was well out of order making you feel bad about it.

And if you do continue to have concerns, you shouldn't feel too intimidated to contact them again. It's always better to be safe than sorry in these instances.

ayjayjay · 15/10/2010 07:22

You haven't wasted anyones time, the symptoms you were presenting should always be taken seriously.
Please don't let the attitude of this midwife stop you from seeking help should the swelling worsen or you get further visual disturbances.

CrazyPlateLady · 15/10/2010 09:49

What an appalling MW!!

I would complain tbh. Disgusting attitude to have. She is there to help pregnant women, no matter how busy it it. I would also get hold of my surgery and say something about your own MW's phone being off. Thats not on when you need to get hold of them either.

Glad everything was ok and you did not waste anyones time. It is always best to get checked out just to be on the safe side. We are always being told to look out for certain symptoms in pregnancy, then when someone does, we get moaned at! Its not on.

lynniep · 15/10/2010 13:37

as everyone else as said. her attitude stinks. I've had a problem like this before. 39 weeks pregnant and no-one would take my symptoms seriously over the phone. Not a pregnancy symptom - see the gp. its a pregnancy issue - see the mw. etc etc. It took me about 5 minutes to be able to put my foot on the floor without yelling in pain on a morning yet they still fobbed me off.

I had to call my friend who is a nurse because I knew there was more of an issue than just swollen feet. She took one look and diagnosed cellulitis, which is serious and needs treatment.

It really winds me up when you get fobbed off. Of course it could be nothing, but if you're worried you shouldn't be made to feel like a hypochondriac when what you need is reasurrance and a medical check. Idiot MW.

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pinkyp · 15/10/2010 22:13

Thank u all, i do feel a bit better now that i wasnt just over reacting!! Still dont feel right, constantly tired even tho my dh let me sleep to 10am!! bless him shakey too and now headache,roll on the next 6 weeks! :)

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