Anyone regretted having a third child?

[fiftyfifty]

I have 2 dc aged 4.5 and 2.5. Have been trying for number 3 for 13 months. On holiday last summer DH & I were lying under the stars watching a meteor shower and afterwards he said he'd wished for another baby. We have used no contraception since last August.
We went on holiday this Sept and when we returned I started having cramps and sore boobs and was utterly exhausted. Googled my symptoms (as never had them in either of my previous pregnancies) and told DH there was a possibility I was pg. He said fine, we have 2 fab kids, if this one's half as good it'll be great. I took a test. BFP on cbdigital 4 days early.

Told DH and am utterly floored by his reaction. He is adamant he doesn't want the baby and feels it would be bad for us as a family to add another sibling. However he did say he is 100% behind me whatever I choose and he appreciates it is my body, my choice. I feel totally torn in two. I can see his point of view but if he had been pleased then I would have no doubts at all. As it is I am confused and wonder if a termination would be best.
If I am honest, I feel if I got rid of this baby I would hate every pregnant woman I saw, and a few of my friends are expecting/ttc at the moment. I don't want to end up bitter and long for another baby as long as I live.

So, is it really so much harder having 3? My eldest has just started school, youngest will get his nursery allowance from Jan.

Please help.

Thank you all for sharing your stories, it means a lot to me. I think I know I have to keep this baby. I hope things will get a bit easier.
When we were ttc #1 I got pregnant immediately and we were both in shock. I remember we didn't speak about it for a couple of weeks. DH was unsure for a while but soon became really excited and really into the idea. DD has always been a real daddies girl and they adore each other.
His friend has also just called to say she is accidently pregnant with her fourth baby. I think I will get him to call her back and speak to her DH as they are keeping the baby and she is excited (I didn't speak to her DH).
Maybe this will make it easier for him.

Sorry I've taken so long to come back to this thread Fiftyfifty.

It's hard to be sure when he changed as it was a few years ago.
He'd definitely changed his mind before she was born.

Actually, I've just asked him and he says before she was born, but probably not much before. People take time to process things. He's not ashamed of having felt this way and I don't think he should be. True it didn't make me feel great during the pregnancy but on the other hand I was sure that I wanted another and that had to be enough for both of us at the time.

DP shudders at the thought that we could be without her, he adores her.
I think you need to work out what you feel rather than second guessing your partner, that way you can start to work out what you'd like to do.

Fiftyfifty (straying away from the point here) do you use cloth nappies? If you do you can have the one's I used with DD3. They're in great nick and I've been planning to sell them but never get around to sorting out the stuff I want to sell.

For you however, they would be my gift.
(You see we (for other reasons) found out we were having a girl and since we already had 2 girls, worked out the only expenses would be nappies and milk if I couldn't for some reason, breastfeed. I chose cloth ones so that was a fixed cost but actually they were fabulous. If you want them, they're yours!)

DC3 was unplanned.

DH's initial reaction was "don't take this the wrong way, but what about an abortion."

He feels guilty as hell about ever saying that now.

Funnily enough, she'll be the one who is most likely to look after us in our old age.

Thank you Easywriter, I am so glad things worked out well for you. I definitely want this baby but his reaction has made me doubt myself and I have times when I wonder if and how I can do this without him wanting it too. I have my first midwife appointment next week.

Your offer of the nappies is incredibly kind. I have never used them but would love to give them a try please. How can I contact you?

Thank you all for your stories, advice and help. I am truly touched by your thoughts. I haven't told anyone else I'm pregnant yet, and DH doesn't have anything positive to say about it so I feel very alone with this.