Telling people your good news.

[Tibbo81]

Hi,
Was anyone on here apprehensive about teling their family, Friends or work that you were expecting?

I only ask as i'm 7 weeks pg and at somepoint we've got to tell family and such like our good news.

I suppose im supposed to be excited about this, but in truth i'm absolutly dreading it!

Mainly telling my mum who has a habit of treating me like a child and making my blood boil at the best of times.

My dad and in laws will be over the moon, but worrying about how my mum will react is starting to get me down. I dont have the best of relationships with her and i can see there being a row.

I'am i the only one who feels or has ever felt like this.

Any advice would be gratefully received.

Tibbo x

Congratulations!
You're very definitely a grown-up now - make sure your reactions to your Mum show this.

I didn't have a mum problem, but was definitely apprehensive about telling people as DP and I didn't make it known we were trying, we aren't married and don't own our own house yet (all the usual things some people expect you to have done before you embark on having a family).

It was our choice though, and we are over the moon about the impending arrival of our DD. We did get a few sly comments, mostly from people who had never had any kids so how can they talk hey?!

I say, be bold and happy and don't listen to what other says. This decision is one only made by two people and ultimately is nothing to do with anyone else!

(Plus DP always tells me that people who are bitter about things are often just jealous!)

Good luck x

Hi Tibbo,

Congratulations on you pregnancy.

I would just say that you are only 7 weeks and I have known lots of people who have waited to tell parents until after the 12 weeks scan.

I am only 5 weeks but have told my mum as should the worst happen and the pregancy not work out I know she would be a great support. But I am waiting till after the 12 weeks to tell my brothers and sister as one of my brothers is very difficult and my sister can just be a bit overbearing and I just can't face it at the moment. Once I've had the scan and seen that everything looks ok I'll feel strong enough to deal with them but until then I can live without the stress.

I'm 8 weeks, and so far we've only told our families and 2 very close friends. I think it's entirely your decision when and whom to tell.
And who knows - your mum might be delighted with the news!

Hi

I am 16 weeks and have hardly told anyone (mum, dad, MIL) due to 2 miscarriages and my baby passing away after birth. I know that those close to me will worry constantly, and as much as I love these people, I don't want to be the focus of attention. My mum is already worrying about me climbing 4 flights of stairs to my flat! Besides, I think it will be a wonderful surprise to tell family after 20 week scan. Your decision and don't feel bad. My situation has been v traumatic. In first preg, I called up ALL close family the day I got my positive preg test.

xx

I know exactly how you feel. I'm almost 12 weeks and have my scan on Friday. I'm dreading telling my parents, even though I'm 33 and have a nine year old daughter already.

I still feel like they treat me like a child. I know they're going to be very shocked.

Don't even know how I'm going to tell them ???

seen a cute t-shirt that may be a fun way for an older sibling to break the news!

www.zazzle.co.uk/secret_big_brother_tshirt-235359721307202925

I'm 22+5 and spilt the beans at about 16 weeks, after nuchal scan results. Had scares with the first (and cvs etc) but this pregnancy is all fine so far so we just paid for this extra test to feel confident this time.

We have only told my parents and brother and really don't want to tell anyone else at the moment but my mum is desperate to tell people and isn't sure why we are waiting as all is ok. It is our first pregnancy and I am only 14 weeks so maybe that's it... I think we would keep it quiet from most people until the birth if we could and just tell a select few!!! Wait until you feel the time is right to tell people - I'm sure there must be such a time (at least I hope so!!) :)