Anyone NOT going to have a nursery?

[Miffster]

Dc1 expected in December. We're planning to sell up and move abroad in March. So for us there is no point making a nursery, and we don't have the space anyway, but even if we weren't moving abroad, I am not sure that I would have one for him as a new born, until he was of an age to move into his own room at night.

We currently live in a 1-bed London flat with a small study/box room and a large sitting room/kitchen. The plan is for him to sleep in a bedside cot up alongside our bed at night, and to nap in an Amby hammock in the sitting room in the day.

When we move abroad we will be in private rented accommodation for at least the first year and so we will just have to find a 2 bed condo/flat where one room can be made into a nursery. It's highly unlikely that we will be able to decorate or even have any furniture of our choice there - apart from a cot which we'll have to find ourselves.

MIL etc are all a bit :( and that the baby will therefore never have 'a proper nursery'. But apart from the pg nest-building urge, will he and I be missing out? Do babies need nurseries aged 0-2?

Miffster Of course I've heard of the word nursery. It's a place where I sent my kids before they went into reception.
Or it's where I used to buy my plants from. This nursery language is just a fancy way of talking about a babies bedroom and makes people sound up their own arses!

Born and bred in England with parents born and bred in England so yes English is my first and only language.

Totally agree with you upahill Before I moved to England the only meaning nursery had for me was the place kids go to before school, or a plant shop! Surely a nursery is just a bedroom? Calling it a nursery sounds like a marketing gimmick to me, to make people think that they have to buy special (horribly overpriced) furniture. The baby will have no idea what room he or she is in.

Our LO will be sleeping in our room, so I hope he likes beige and blue! The spare room is staying as the spare room for the time being, seeing as we're in a rented house and can't decorate anyway. He'll have his own room when we buy our own place but it'll be decorated in a pretty plain way - one colour on the walls, one on the carpet. He can "personalise" it by adding his own choice of duvet covers and posters. Kids grow out of things so fast that there really isn't any point in putting permanent decor like wall paper on the walls IMO.

Nope, our house is very small and rented, we have a spare bedroom but it is DH's office. We plan to bedshare for the forseeable future, so won't bother with any of that.

We don't have a nursery (DS due in a couple of days) because he'll be in a moses basket next to my bed for the first few months at least. We have a spare room where I have stored all the baby stuff but I haven't bothered decorating it or anything at this stage.

I was feeling bad and guilty because the women in my NCT group were showing each other photos of the nurseries they have created with lovely stencils and pictures, expensive mamas and papas furniture etc. I felt bad that we hadn't done this but then I figure that the baby won't care - it's not like they're born with expectations - more important that he's near us initially. We'll sort out the room when he's ready to move in.

Sadly no, much as I might like a pretty teddy bear festooned room!

But in real life we have a small 2 bed house and the baby will be in a cot in our room until it is big enough to go into the bed in the spare room. (Spare room takes single bed, some shelves and leaves ... ooh not enough space for anything else really so cot in there not possible)

Due to limited space we are not going to have a nursery. Technically I live in a 2 bedroom flat but it really isn't, it is a large 1 bedroom flat with the second bedroom currently being used as our living room. Due to the way my flat is laid out the two bedrooms are the furthest two rooms away from one another and the smallest "bedroom" is closest to the door. I'm far too paranoid to leave a child so far away from me.

I told a work colleague that I intended to have the baby share with me for the first 2 years and by then we would be ready to move and she replied by telling me that that wasn't recommended and made me feel like a bad mum. Although to be honest she has chosen not to have children of her own and now believes that in our culture those who choose not to have kids are hard done by by the government and employment. So I'm not sure if her opinion counts for much.

SIDS guidelines are that the baby shouldn't be asleep in any room by themselves at all, day or night, until they're at least 6 months old. We had a nursery for my son, but inn real life it was just a room where all his stuff was stashed, so that it didn't spread all over the house. He was in with us until he was 10 months old.

I have never gone in for nurseries. For DS 1 I gave the room a lick of (white) paint and stuck some pictures on the wall but apart from that it was just another room but with a cot in. Now that DS 2 has come along DS1 has been moved into the other room and DS 1 has the original room - it's so small you can't swing a cat and with pressure to accommodate family when they come and stay, we now have single bed in it as well. There is just enough room to walk down the middle between the cot and the bed.

I would not worry - like 3plusbump says - a baby is not ging to care what colour the walls are. I think it's when a child is older and needs more room that it becomes more important to give them their own space if you can - but it's not always practical.

DD is 15 months and still has her cot in our room although she sleeps in our bed with us most of the time.
Wouldn't have it any other way.

Am 6 months pregnant now though so not sure what we're going to do when the next one comes, it's not the biggest bedroom and only a normal sized double bed - its going to be cozy!!

Nursery is just a one word phrase for baby's room IMO.

We're having a room as a nursery, but not for baby as she won't remember it! I just want a room to put all the baby stuff in (other than the moses basket in which she'll start sleeping in our room). And as I'm going to breastfeeding I want a quiet relaxing, comfortable room to get to grips with feeding in.

We never had a nursery. DD slept in with us till she was 10 months and all her clothes etc were in our room as it was most convenient. Now she has her own bedroom, but it's not decorated in a 'baby' style.

I too got sick of people asking if the nursery was ready and explaining that I found the whole concept patronising, unnecessary, expensive and basically just another load of marketing rubbish designed to make you spend more at Mothercare!