Emotional wreck!

[NoTeaForMe]

Hi all,

I'm 38+1 and have just moved house. I'm absolutely exhausted even though my husband was amazing and did most/all of the moving and organising! I either feel like crying or am crying pretty much all the time. Feel very unsettled and like I don't have a home for the baby to come back to when it arrives.

I'm sure it's all hormonal but can't help feeling sad and teary. Am I normal, does anyone else feel so emotional at this stage?

Thanks

I'm 35+5 and although I feel reasonably together and not too emotional, that's because I've not just moved house! I'm fairly confident that if I'd just moved "the nest" I'd be feeling exactly the same. Moving house is an unsettling time at the best of times but when you're expecting a baby as well.... That's alot of emotional turmoil. Try and put out all your home comforts and make it feel like home with lots of putting your feet up and hopefully the combination of your familiar homely things and a bit of rest before baby arrives will sort you out nicely :)

I am 35 and a bit weeks and have just had the most emotional-wreck 2 days of my pregnancy. I'm normally not an emotional person at all, and for the last two days I've not stopped crying. Today, the world is a good place again

I put my emotional collapse down to over-exertion through staying at work too long (am pg with twins, so although 'only' 35 weeks, I am enormous, can't walk, can't sleep and know I will have these babies by one method or another within three weeks). Then a clever bod at work pointed out that as well as all that pregnancy stuff that's going on, actually I am likely to be emotional just because these were my last few days at work. I've spent the last 10 years building a career and structuring my life around going to work everyday, and suddenly that is stopping. Such a change is likely to cause a few tears!

I think moving house has probably added to the emotional stress because its a big change. But it is also normal to cry a bit during pregnancy anyway.

My advice would be to 'shrink' your world a little bit so that you know you have somewhere to bring your baby home to. You don't need a whole house - you could just start with your bedroom. I have recently sorted out my bedroom so that I know I can cope in here with my babies. I don't care about the lounge (yet!) or the kitchen. I know I can cope with my babies in my bedroom/bathroom, and my husband will just have to deal with everything else. Makes it all seem a bit more acheivable, and I'm sure a few more rooms will become more organised over whatever time I have left before the babies arrive.

A long post, but I wanted to describe how I feel so that you didn't feel alone. I guess my advice is to start with one room so that you know you have the minimum needed to cope. Then expand from there if you feel capable/have time. If not capable/no time, you'll just have to hide in your one room with your baby and let others deal with the rest

Good luck!

Totally normal (or I am also going mad ).

I was keeping it together pretty well till about 37/38 weeks and now everything makes me cry!

I had to make a concerted effort not to panic about things like not having any curtains, a functioning washing machine or a pram, and reassure myself that if push comes to shove I can send DH to the laundrette / use a friend's washing machine or in the last resort just get in the car and go to my parent's house till ours is habitable.

I completely second the advice of concentrating on one room, and making a nest there.

Good luck

Hi - well you are not alone. I have had to temporarily move out of our house while major building work is being done. I am 33 weeks.
I have been away for over 2 weeks now and am finding it very difficult and cry pretty much all of the time. I just cannot keep my emotions in check. I hate the fact that I am not in my own home and that it is covered in dust and grime and that there is so much cleaning and organising to do before I can even begin to think about sorting out the nursery.

It is very hard being in someone else's house when your are this pregnant. Your really want to be in your own space among your own possessions.

I do understand how you must be feeling. It really isn't the time for major upheaval and change is it? Bet you will never do this again. But you live and learn and sometimes you just don't have a choice. At least you are in your new home now! Now the rest of your time can be spent getting things how you want them. Try and focus on a couple of rooms - the nursery for the baby and maybe your room or the sitting room for you and your husband so that you have somewhere organised and calm to spend time amongst the rest of the mess.

I think that people don't realise how much you need to be in a calm and peaceful environment in the weeks leading up to the birth. You need to be in the right frame of mind to focus. I think my husband is only just realising that now as every time we talk, whether on the phone (he is staying in the property and I am not) or face to face I just start bawling and can barely get any words out. At least you and your husband are together. I miss mine so much and hate spending time away from him when this pregnant, it makes me very depressed.

Thankyou all so much for all your replies, they have made me feel better, and helped convince me that maybe I'm not going crazy after all!!

We are painting the nursery today and then I can unpack all the clothes and bedding etc so that it feels 'ready'. As the baby will be in our room with us for a bit I think we need to focus on that too, then like you say I will have a base if the baby arrives and the rest will get done in time, just maybe not by me!

I have read all these posts to my husband so that he knows I am normal and he doesn't need to worry too much about me sobbing on his shoulder every half an hour! So I think you have helped him understand too!

Thankyou!

I think there aught to be a clause in all estate agent and builders contracts that demands a negative pregnancy test before proceeding!

Hope you are feeling better soon, and your poor husband is less freaked out. Mine is starting to creep in from work with his briefcase at the ready in case I attack him with a heavy implement and a box of tissues in the other hand to cover all eventualities.

I agree antidote ! You should not be allowed to move in late pregnancy, or maybe at all in pregnancy, no
building work either!

I had a long soak in the bath tonight and got out to find that my husband had completely taken on board all that you had said and has made our bedroom look like a bedroom and not a storage room. Of course then I cried because he'd done so much and been so thoughtful......I think he thinks he can't win! Whatever happens ends with me in tears!!

Thankyou again for all your words of wisdom and reminding me that it's normal for me to be feeling like this!

At least you are comforted that it is normal. I'm 36 weeks and moving on wednesday and I am swinging from a sobbing hysteric to a complete bitch within seconds. DH is right now taking solace on the golf course for a couple of hours (just about now he should be on the 1st tee waiting for it to get light!)

It's a lot to take on but much better to do it now than try to move with a newborn. Daisystone gives good advice focus on the important rooms the rest can and will wait.

Also, you might want to warn your DH that if he thinks this is a bit freaky wait till hormones kick in at about 3 days post-birth when you sit there crying uncontrollably for absolutely no reason and smiling at the same time. It's a strange one