2nd baby is this normal?

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I'm pregnant with my 2nd and i'm excited but no way near as excited as i was with my 1st, i use to sit reading all baby magazines from start to finish now i see it as a bit of a chore to read one. I'm also worried that i'm gonna love one more than the other or my ds (3) will feel left out etc, is this normal?

Totally normal in my experience - I'm 38 weeks pg with DC2 and still in denial a bit! My DS is 3 and I am convinced I won't love the new baby as much as I do him but I think this is just because I haven't met DC2 yet.

I think with your first it is such a massive life change - everything is new and it seems like there's so much to learn/collect/plan for. By the time you get pregnant with DC2 you've experienced most of it first hand!

Oh LITR, I know just what you mean about the guilt...I know it's irrational but I sit in his room reading him his bedtime story, and think "how am I going to do this with a colicky newborn??"

Yep! I am 30 weeks pregnant with my third and it has gone so fast I've hardly had time to think about it at all! With my first it was all new and exiting and I spent ages looking at magazines and shopping for baby things, this time round I am just as exited but simply have less time to spend thinking about it. You won't love them any less, hard to believe but really you won't!

Thank you ladies i'm glad its not just me, i do feel really guilty towards my 1st, i'm also alot more snappy with him recently too god knows how i'm gonna cope when i have a screaming newborn, no sleep and a 3 yr old wanting to play :S what have i done!!

Your love doesnt divide between children, it multiplies

Definitely agree things dont feel nearly so exciting second time around, I'm only 9 weeks but I'm sure DH and I have only talked about this pregnancy about 3 times compared to all the late night chatting and planning we did with DS1.

I felt the same when pg with DS, and felt very low once he was born. I felt almost cross with him and I wanted someone to take him away so I could be with DD on my own again! But this didn't last long, and I soon fell in love with him. Now I look at how they play together and keep each other company and also give each other confidence to do new things, and question how I ever could have thought I was ruining DD's life, she claims she doesn't like DS (because he's a boy!) but I have full confidence that she loves him really.

You're completely normal, and don't worry you will love your new baby just as much as your first (don't worry if it takes a little while though!)

ive had the same feelings. Im 27 weeks and my Ds is 17 months. I remember at this point in my first pregnancy i was buying loads of clothes and magazines getting ready but ive not brought a thing this time. I think it could be worrying as i had a bad labour with my first. I also feel guilty about spending time with my baby when she comes. Hoping these feelings will go soon as i really just want to enjoy my prenancy and not feel guilty.