Pre baby blues?

[RoxyLady]

Can you get pre baby blues?

Ive had so much happen over the last year

• father in law fighting a year long battle with cancer that he lost a couple of weeks ago

• dealing with partner grieving

• trying to look for a new house to move into

• started a new job a couple of months ago

• found out sex of baby and partner isnt 100% happy about it

• gone through morning sickness etc

• grandfather died last week

• met my father again after a year of no contact to find he still didnt really care

I just feel like crying all the time.. over the smallest things. Im starting to feel like I cant cope anymore, Im trying to hold it together for everyone..especially my partner but I cant anymore

Oh RoxyLady, so sorry to hear your news.
I think you have every right to feel down, and it has nothing to do with your baby. All of those things that have been happening to you are considered the biggest stress causes in western lives today, and being pregnant surely doesn't help, but it is not the cause either.

Everyone feels different, and for what i's worth, I'd like to talk as much as possible with my partner and other family and friends, as they are going through similar emotions and you might find confort in not feeling alone. And perhaps I would also find confort in knowing that the cycle of life continues, with you at the centre of it.

that is more like stress of horrible situations in life, not pre-baby blues at all.
However, pre-baby blues is more than possible, and is likely in fact. Hormones are everywhere, you feel worried/excited/scared at the same time about the baby.

I went through a lot too, and did a lot of crying - two miscarriages at the end of last year, inc D&C on 23rd Dec. In amongst this, mother-in-law died, grandmother died, building work been done on house for 6 months... Then I fell pregnant again and have worried a bit since.

I agree, speak to someone, and if they dont get how upset you are, MAKE them understand you're not coping well. It can make a big difference. Lots of love.

Sorry to hear that you have been feeling rubbish. Sounds like you have good reason to feel low though and that you've had loads of unpleasant stuff to deal with so no surprise that you're struggling. Plus hormones will be making everything feel even worse.

Talk your partner and close friends so that you don't feel so alone. Or maybe consider asking your GP about some counselling?

Take care and good luck.