being called fat

[domesticdiva]

Grrrrrr! Just had the mother on the phone and she breezily asked if I was still "Big and fat"? meaning she was checking whether I had given birth or not, I'm 36 weeks but DS1 was a preemie so been on tenterhooks since 33 weeks. Plus she's one the first people we would tell if I went into labour so god knows why she felt the need to ask??!!

I know she only meant well but does this piss any one else off too? Am I being oversensitive? I'm not fat (I've gone up to a size 14 was a 12) I'm pregnant FFS!

Rant over, sorry!

I'm totally with you on this one! I'm 40+3 and am soooo fed up with people feeling like they can make comments all the time. My folks are picking my DS and DD up from school every day this week cause I seriously can't be arsed with it anymore! Try and keep your chin up, your not fat- just fabulously pregnant!! Xx

Thanks Rhigwyn!! Feel much better now, a good rant sorts me out lol! Good luck with yours xx

this is generally my rant of the month too atm!

I must get at least 5 comments every single day from random strangers who feel the need to gasp and say how huge i am considering i have 4 weeks left! - like i even asked what they thought of my bump size!

today mind, nobody said anything whilst i went into town - apart from my own mother (snap domesticdiva!) who thought it useful to look worried whilst saying she thought it was the last month when the baby got biggest - i.e. how can you get much bigger?! needless to say she got snapped back at, to be fair, she was only innocently saying a simple comment, i think im just way too sensitive about it all now!

Are you due around the 25th domesticdiva?

I HATE this!

I was called fat throughout my last pregnancy towards the end. I had always been very slim (to the point of being teased mercilously at school) but I put on loads of weight with DS and my bump was huge.

I was PREGNANT not FAT FFS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes it does bug me too.

You should try being Fat and pregnant! I am a size 24 and during this pregnancy have in fact lost 1/2 stone rather than put any weight on! I am in the same clothes I wore before I got pregnant in fact I now have to wear a belt with all my jeans and have bought a few new pairs 2 sizes smaller for after the baby is born! I am also 36 weeks and my baby is showing as big because I have GD.

I usually have at least one person a week who act shocked and say oh are you pregnant! Although I am a big girl I dont have a big tummy usually the cheeky gits!

I went to the Doctors today to get more meds for my GD and the Doctor asked me if I was Pregnant!

I think I would much rather be seen as massively pregnant than just massively fat which people must think :( I am due to have the baby in 2 weeks by C section as the bugger is breech at the mo and I can bet you that I will have at least one Mum come up to me at the school and say "oh were you pregnant"

Why do people think it is ok to speak to pregnant women like it usually no one would ever say anything about you being fat etc but it seems its fine if your pregnant!

This drives me round the bend. I was chatting to a (friendly, generally) woman who owns the local bookshop the other month. She was heavily pregnant, and me being large early, I only looked a couple of months behind her, though I think there were about 5 months between us. I mentioned I was due at Christmas and she said 'Oh yes, I did see you this week on the street and I thought of congratulating you but wasn't sure. You've only just come out of the 'is she fat or is she pregnant?' stage really, haven't you?' For the record, I've looked very obviously pregnant since about 10 weeks!

I am now 27 weeks and look full-term. Like last time. Every single time I go out - supermarket, toddler group, library - I have at least 2 people, usually total strangers, asking how many more days/weeks to go and on being told I'm due on Boxing Day, they express horror and shock! I am completely fed up with this, especially when they go on to ask about twins, lots of water, was DS ENORMOUS, are my dates right, etc.

The shop assistant in Clinton Cards said my bump was so big that i looked like I was going to give birth to an elephant! I left the store and burst into tears, another good reason never to go into Clinton Cards.

OMG drivingmissdaisy that is outrageous!!

I am totally fed up of people/friends/colleagues telling me how massive my tits are now!!!! Like you would ever dream of commenting on someone else's boobs if they were not pregnant so why is it okay now? I got so down about it last week on 2 occasions I got home and just cried!

My mum's not around, but my mother in law pisses me off constantly by saying stupid things.

I had my DD in January, and I didn't get on the floor doing sit ups straight away.

We were in a shop in July and the shop owner showed me some expensive shoes, I told her being on Maternity leave I couldn't afford them - she asked when I was due. An innocent mistake but I could have knocked her head off. To make matters worse, my thicko, pikey MIL commented that I didn't have an ounce on me, and I was a stick of a thing! More like a walking log cos I'm 5'9 and a size 16! Why did the patrionsing old cow lie to me??

You being pregnant and a 14 sounds slim and gorgeous to me!! I bet you look lovely - dont' listen to what your mum says - I often think some people are just cheeky to their close ones as they think they can get away with it. She prob thought she was being funny.

The woman at the checkout last week greeted me with "Twins? Triplets?!" When I said no, just the one she looked horrified. It's just bizarre - I'm due in 4 weeks and I look perfectly normal! But everyone likes to comment :) I just smile and then grumble to dh when they're out of earshot.

I am 35 wks and fully aware my bump is supersized but I get the "you are massive" and my best friends favourite "you're quite lucky you've not out if on anywhere but your tummy and your backside but that's always been a size" (I am a 10 but my maternity jeans bump band doesn't fit over and it hasn't for ages, my bum however does. We have always been able to hold with each other though and she's pregnant too so I'll get my opportunity to comment on her cankles soon. O and I was in boots yesterday when a lady turned to her husband and said "o look there's a big bump" loud as you like and when he said "pardon?" she said it again louder and didn't even acknowledge me when I looked up. Don't let it bother you they probably don't think if would cause offense as you're expected to be bigger, my partner always reminds me and others "pregnant not fat!"