Upheaval and stress

[daisystone]

I'm getting quite agitated as we are having an extension built at present and I have had to move out for at least two weeks to stay with family and friends. I am currently 32 weeks pregnant. Our house is a mess and covered in dust. No running water, bathroom and kitchen ripped out, chaos everwhere and builders stomping mud through the downstairs.

I have to go backwards and forwards as my husband is living on site with the cat and I get really upset every time I set foot back in there.

DH is working really hard on it and it having a crap time at moment as is majorly busy and stressed out. I just want to be back in my home and not feeling like a burden on other people. I hate being away for so long and being independent and not liking to ask for help, I find it extremely difficult to be living in someone else's house.

I am trying to remain calm but am in a panic really in case the baby comes early and the house is still a building site and covered in dust and dirt.

I feel so powerless as there is absolutely nothing that I can do to move things on.

I suppose I am looking for kind words of experience. I didn't think I would be in this situation so close to my due date.

daisystone,

Don't panic. I'm almost 28 weeks and living in about a square foot of space as we are ready to move any day now. We were hoping to have moved months ago but solicitors are creating problems. So everyday I pray for the phone call that says we can move. I've had a tonne of other stress to which I won't bore you with. But I was getting to the point when I couldn't cope.
But then I sat down and thought about it and the affect it was having on me, my DH and our soon to be little one.

Take some time for you. Go for a walk, go for a nice coffee, have a wander round the shops, have a pedicure or whatever it is that you do to treat yourself.

You say there is nothing you can do to move it on - so try to sit down and think about how you can best deal with a situation you can't change. Look at it this way - it won't be like that forever. And if you have to say "sod it, i'm sitting down with my feet up with a biscuit because I'm pregnant." then you do that. Be selfish.
Explain to everyone who needs to know how important it is everything is done asap and then just accept that it's something your DH has to sort out.

Have a hot bath and do some deep breathing. And talk to your little one to make sure they can hear mums voice and not just sense her worry.

Your doing the hardest job in the world right now - be selfish and take each day as a new one.

You'll be great xxx

thanks redd82. I will try to follow your sensible advice. Never thought everything would be up to the wire.

Plus my hormones are making me extra sensitive and worried.d

feel for you daisystone - I will be moving when I'm about 34 weeks pg. We were due to get a new kitchen done when I was 34 weeks pg (involving moving the kitchen to another room and alot of dust etc to do this) but decided it was too tight and too stressful for me. Still, I think moving at 34 weeks pg will be stressful enough as it is! Not looking forward. Try and do what you can to relax - can you go somewhere to get a massage or something? That sort of thing can really help tension. Agree with redd82 too - just do what you have to do and concentrate on growing that baby :) If you dioscovere a miricle destress way to cope with it then let me know - I'll need it for when I move!!

Thanks Angels1 - if I find some magic way to relax I will let you know!

i spent an hour just stroking my cat today and that actually really helped me to relax a bit! you may have to borrow a cat....

I just have to have faith that all will be sorted, but it is so hard to imagine at the moment.

Fingers crossed that all goes well for your move too