Future changes to our relationship?

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I am 37 weeks pregnant and have just started maternity leave.

My husband have been together for 10 years (married for 2). Our baby was very much planned and we are both really excited.

However, I'm worried that it will massively change our relationship maybe for the worse? He's being great but I'm already feeling frumpy and worried my brain will turn to mush and he'll not find me as interesting etc!!

Am I being crazy?

I have been very used to being career minded and going out / having many interests etc I think the thought of having a year off (which I know I am very lucky to be able to have and want to have for the baby) freaks me out a little!

Well I won't lie having a new baby DOES put a strain on a relationship. BUT if you have a solid relationship already there is no reason that you shouldn't be able to weather it together.

Yes your relationship will change, but that's because you will have another person in it. That doesn't necessarily mean that your relationship will change for the worse.

DOn't imagine that he will find you unattractive just because you're a 'mummy' now. My DP still finds me attractive and I'm pregnant with our second. You might find it's more of a shock to YOU because your life will be so different initially. A newborn is hard work, and does take up your time, but there is nothing stopping you from finding fulfillment in your career after your maternity leave :) And tbh once your body is recovered from birth you'd do well to take a bit of time each week to do a 'you' activity while DH looks after baby. Mine was trampolining!

HTH