3 weeks to go - feeling sad, tired and sorry for myself today

[moominmarvellous]

I must be having a hormone surge or something as I know the things I'm worrying about aren't serious and all will be fine once the baby is here, but I keep crying today. Do you mind if I have a moan?

DC2 is due in 3 weeks and we are in the middle of a house purchase (which we had thought would be complete by now). I just feel really unprepared this time, like I've been thinking more about the house than the new baby. I've been going through the neutral baby bits from DD to get ready and it all looks a bit wrinkled up and old which is making me feel like DC2 is just getting all hand me downs. DD had a lovely nursery and everything but the kitchen sink in it, this time I'm not sure where to put any baby things.

My sister who was really keen to be with me and DH at the birth of DD doesn't really seem interested at all this time and keeps calling to ask when I think it'll happen so she can plan her social life.

DH is stressed with work and the house stuff and as a result is being really grumpy and impatient with DD in the evenings which is starting to piss me off. I feel like I'm not giving her enough attention either the last couple of days.

I know I'm being stupid, I had a terrible nights sleep last night and I remember having a day similar to this when late into pg with DD. Just worrying about everything and being unable to shake it off all day.

siiiiiiiiggggghhh Need to get my act together and take DD to pre-school.

hi
sorry to hear youre feeling like this, i am in a similar position (due 10th Oct) feel weepy , tired and sorry for myself. think its all part of it but with you going through a house move it must be tough. try to keep yoour chin up, it seems all very normal so late in pregnancy. xx

Have to say that there are a lot of similarities here. I'm 32 weeks. We're also buying a house and there is a lot of work to do before moving in - insulating, painting, taking up carpets etc. The sale was supposed to close this week, but it will be end next week at the earliest.

DS is extremely extremely clingy at the moment - he wants to fall asleep with his nose touching mine! DH told me I'm not giving him enough attention. I starting crying. I've been feeling sick and sorry for myself and my ds and my new dc.

As regards not preparing for DC2 I felt better once I bought a couple of things online for DC2 - his/her own rug and a new sling. I think that most of the 'things' that were bought last time were completely unnecessary though. Will your new one be in with you for a while? If so, there's no need to worry about a nursery.

Moomin I feel your pain.

I am 40 weeks today, last week I had a complete crap week! tuesday I spent most of the day in bed crying for no reason really jut fed up!
Moving house while hevily pg cant be the easiest thing its bad enough when youre not pg!
You should fill your day to keep you busy; sort out the wrinkled baby stuff so it looks nice and fresh then you will feel more ready for DC2 and maybe plan a nice afternoon with DD baking a cake for daddy? that will be sure to cheer all of you up!! hope you feel better soon x

Hello, I'm new here..but have just joined as I'm feeling pretty grim too, 4 weeks to go and totally ambivalent about the whole thing, have had bad problems with depression in the past but (naively, it seems) assumed that being pregnant with first (very much wanted) babe would stop all of that; feel agitated, irritable, tearful, utterly joyless and hopeless, and feel very guilty about not being excited and jumping around. OH is supportive to an extent but can see it just disturbs him, and so haven't really communicated this to him; also concerned that where our relationship was brilliant before, now I'm having doubts about him too. I'm sure it's all me and a combination on anxiety and depression, seeing GP tomorrow but grateful for any advice/thoughts from anyone who has felt like this in late pregnancy

Thank god I am not alone! I have been all of the above over the last week or so. Even cried on the way to work over a Doris Day song on Radio 2 and you should worry moominmarvellous.I am due on the 25th October but will be induced 2 weeks before (due to diabetes). We are in the middle of decorating, and as we both work full time it seems to be taking ages. Friends and family who promised to help seem to have let us down and I'm taking all my frustrations out on my poor hubby.
I leave work this Friday after 18 years of full-time work there so I fear tears again then!!
But at then end I a going to have a long awaited baby after 5 years of trying (I'm 40) so that's enough to cheer me up.

Hooray, another miserable person!
I've got 5 weeks roughly til my elec c-section due to severe spd. I am in horrific pain, am already on the maximum of prescription painkillers without having to go to hospital and trying to run around after 20 month DD. So so sick of being pregnant, will not have another!!!
Cannot wait til this baby arrives then I can have less of this silly hormone that causes all this. Can cope with the sleepless nights as long as this stupid extreme pain goes!!
Also am now enormous!!! Argghhhh... can't wait til end of October!!!! Good luck everyone else, chin up!!

Well, I had to go out today so I took myself off to the shops while DD was in pre-school and some a bit of mini retail therapy. I needed to get a couple of Birthday presents and picked up a new steriliser for the baby (Tommee Tippee electric steriliser is half price - £19.99 in Boots if anyones interested??)

We also had some good news on the house front, solicitor called to say we are aiming to exchange & complete next Wednesday.....so if all goes well we could even get a bit of decorating done before DC2 arrives (due 15th Oct).

I'm relieved that I'm not alone in feeling this way at times. I think it's a combination of things beginning to get physically uncomfortable, and the due date looming so that it suddenly become real. I think I just skip merrily through the first months being a bit naive and then start to start to think of the practicalities. What will change and how. It just brings me down in general.

Another thing that lifted my mood was talking to friend, only briefly, about nothing to do with baby or house, but about her funny weekend away. It was enough to make me laugh and stop feeling quite so sorry for myself.

Again - it's hard dividing your attentions between DH and DC's isn't it? DD has started coming in in the night asking for cuddles, which as you say, are very close head to head type cuddles which make me feel so hot and bothered so the sleep deprivation is added to the mix.

We're nearly there girls :) xxx