my friend has just had a baby girl 3lb 7oz, I'm really worried

[TrinityTheLonelyBrokenRhino]

how worried should I be iyswim
I dont know how small is too small

she was 34 weeks and her waters went but no contractions

then today they decided they need to get her out

she had a c sec and has lost lots of blood and is intensive care

baby is 3lb 7oz

she was in hispital for 3 weeks when she was 30 weeks with placenta previa and bleeding being caused by a bloodvessel being pressed on.....not sure exactly but that righted itself and she was allowed home but now this...

my cousin recently had a ds at 30 weeks, he weighed 3ib.

a few weeks in scbu and he is now home and doing well.

fingers crossed it's the same for your friend.

3lbs 7oz is small but chances of being absolutely fine are very high indeed. DH was born at 31 weeks and weighed much, much less than that. And this was 30yrs ago. He was fine.

What about your friend? How is she? What a traumatic time for them.

My cousin had a baby that weight and she's doing very well, now toddling. It will be a really traumatic time for them, but they both have a good chance of being fine.

thanks guys

at the mo I spoke to my friend this morning and she knew she washaving a c sec at 2 pm and promised me she would get her dh to text me

just got a text from her dh saying the weight and that my friedn lost lots of blood and in intensive care but stacle

thats all I know right now
I answered offering to help in any way I can (they have other children) and to send her my love

I dont want to ring him and hassle him at this time

will text him tomorrow
or shold I not??

i think a text offering help would be fine.

certainly would not offend me!

my ds1 was born at 30 wks and was 3lb 13 oz hes now a healthy 20 year old

3lb 7oz sounds like a good weight to me. Dd2 was only a few oz heavier and was absolutely fine- it's quite heavy for a special care baby.

There were others in SCBU at the same time as us who were only 1 lb when born - all are doing great now.

My friend had a full term boy last year who weighed 4lbs 2oz iirc. He was tube fed for a week so that he didn't burn any calories from feeding but other than that he was smashing.

I hope your friend recovers well from her section and congratulations to her on her new baby.

I know twins who are going to uni this year - they were born at 27 weeks and were tiny. They both play sport at a high level and have done well in school - and they are the sweetest, most friendly and involved teenagers I know.

Hope your friend and her little one recover really quickly.

babies born at 23 weeks and just over 1lb can survive, so 34 weeks and over 3lb is good going in the scheme of things.

I believe at 34 weeks, providing no other complications, a baby has as much chance of survival as a term baby.

However, having a prem baby or baby is SCBU or NICU is extremely stressful and difficult for the parents. I would probably text and just say you hope they are as OK as possible and if they need any practical help like shopping brought, things taken in to the hospital or meals dropped off you'd be glad to help. When our daughter was in NICU people couldn't do much and I was very over sensitive, but meals being brought round was really helpful as we were too exhausted and had no time to cook.

Och. Don't worry about baby - honestly. 3lb
7oz is a whopper. DD was born 1lb n' change - she is perfectly fine.. except her loud snoring right at the moment

Keep sending your friend messages of support

....and practical support - food/cleaning/reading material (!) etc

I have a close friend who had a DD who weighed 1lb 6oz. It was very rough going as you can imagine, but her DD is now a happy, healthy 6 year old. Another friend had a DS who came in slightly over 2lbs and he is also fine (at almost 4 yrs old). Both families were put through the wringer and faced many terrifying times, but in the end, all worked out well.

Good luck to your friend.

thanks everyone

texted this morning to offer any help and say I was htinking of them

he thanked me and said, they are stable, he doen't need any help just now, hes just very tired

Trinity I was only a few ozs heavier than that when I was born, not that you would know to look at me now!

Glad they are ok this morning, poor bloke must be completely shell shocked.

I second what Midori said. Baby has a very good chance of being fine but it is stressful having one in SCBU (DS was in long term). Must be doubly stressful for your friend's DH as his wife is so ill. Certainly i'm sure they will welcome offers of help. If you are close by or know any family who are visiting maybe get a bag of healthy snacks sent in for him. I had hospital meals but poor DH lived on sainsbury's sandwiches for a couple of weeks, grim. Will be thinking of them.