Anxious, stressed and soooooo worried

[supersonic]

i am 5 wks pregnant today and DP and I are over the moon we haven't told out DD who is 4 for obvious reasons. I am just so uptight, anxious stressed, and worried - I had m/c in May 2003 i was 16 wks pregnat when I found out by bleeding very very heavily but in fact the baby had died at 11 wks it was one of the most horrific experiences of my life with so much blood loss and just the way i was treat at the hospital for eg I was told to go home first of all and when i passed the foetus could I possibly put it in a jam and take it back to the hosp - that sort of insensitive crap scarred me for life. However we moved on but now I am having strange feelings and although I am over the moon I am pg I can't help but feel at any point I could m/c and wouldn't even know - in a weird way I am trying to detach myself form the thoughts of being pregnant but this isn't working too well as it comes across as if I am not bothered about being pg at all. I just wanted to know if anyone else had been in this position - which is a silly thing to say because unfortunately I am sure there are lots and lots of women who have been or if anyone had any reassuracne they could throw my way oh and one last thing if you have had previous m.c do you get an early scan?
Apologies for babbling on

Sorry SS, have no experience, but I'm sure there'll be loads of support along soon.

Supersonic, I really feel for you. I had a m/c in Feb and now 11 weeks and terrified all the time like you are. I think early scan largely depends on whether there is an early pregnancy unit in your area. I had one at 6/7 weeks and it did reassure me for a while, but that's worn off now and I'm desperate for the next one. I hope everything goes well for you. I don't know what you can do about the anxiety except get through it and know that when you do have a baby in your arms it will have been worth it.

supersonic - there is a good thread for women who are pg following a mc here

ss,

I had a missed mc at 16.5 weeks in January. I was admitted to hospital and when our little boy was born we requested a post mortum. Were you given this option? I only ask because babies lost as late as 16 weeks normally have problems which stop them from growing. We were lucky enough to be given the reason behind our sons death and it has meant I've been very closly monitered for the same thing during this pregnancy.

It sounds like you have been treated terribly by your hospital.

In my area women who have suffered mc's are given additional scans.

I know this pregnancy will be awful for you - but try to relax and enjoy it as much as possible.

madrush Im sorry to hear about your m/c but grat news that your 11 wks pg. I have just been on the NCt website i only went to look when the next sale in my area was when Id ecided to look at the pg link and found miscarriages and discovered that is you suffer lower back pain or stomach cramps this could be early signs of m/c and the lower back pain is something I have been experiencing (not consistently) for the last 2-3 days and am now in floods of tears -called my friend and just she said as I have been so worried and she couldn't give me any answers bless her I should perhaps call the GP and ask for his advice or reassurance I have done so and am waiting for him to call me back - has anyone experience lower b/p this early on in pg.

supersonic

READ THAT THREAD!!!

lots of women suffer lower back pain and tummy pains at 5 weeks!!

ss, at this stage you are likely to imagine that every niggle and twinge is a sign of m/c. I read a good book called Pregnancy After A Loss which I found quite helpful.

If you are only 5 weeks pregnant then any stomach aches or back pain could be because it's around the time your period would normally be due.

sweetheart - I was 16 wks when I bled but the baby was 11wks when he/she dies. Initially I bled slightly and went to Hosp where they said my cervix wasn't open (?) so it was possible i wasn't miscarrying but later had a scan and confirmed the baby had dies at 11wks and had fluid on or around the brain I was sent away to see if the miscarriage woud happen naturally or to go back in on monday (this happened on the friday) if it hadn't and obviously it did happen so back i went. After wards I think someone did mention a post mortem but heard nothing other than that - have to be honest I was it out of it for a couple of days as I was quite poorly.
I hope an early scan will rest my mind for a few wks at least and perhaps they will giv eme an early scan due to the prev. m/c

they will definitely give you an early scan

it is too early at 5 weeks but go and see your gp asap and get them to book you in at the EPU when you are 7 weeks.

ss,

I'm so sorry - it sounds like you had terrible treatment.

Although I carried to 16.5 weeks my baby had died around 13/14 weeks. A scan confirmed the baby had no heartbeat and I was admitted straight away and given tablets to start my labour off. I was terrified of going through labour totally unprepaired and asked what would happen if I went home. They said it could take weeks and it was better to just have the tablets and get it over with.

I'm so utterly shocked that you were just sent home. And I think it's disgusting they suggested that you bring the foetus back in a jar

I can only echo what others have said - go to your gp and tell them you want an early scan. They can usually see the heartbeat from about 6 week on.

Also, come over the thread linked below. You'll find there are lots of people on here in a similar situation to you.

Chin up honey - I'm sure it will be fine this time (from someone who is now 27 weeks pregnant )

sweetheart thank you very much for reassurance and advice I am reading the other thread and you are all right it is reassuring to know you are not the only one with these feelings of anxiety and worry I also realise that there are many people a lot worst off than me and I really do feel for anyone who has to experience a m/c.
thanks to all of you for advising me and for the general reassurance.