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Just found out I'm pregnant

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JoJo36 · 19/09/2010 11:13

Hi everyone,

I just found out this morning I am pregnant and am feeling a bit wobbly. I am 36 and it has been something I've really wanted.

I feel rather weepy and flat but delighted too. I am hoping that I will feel better as time goes on. I have had depression in the past so am quite sensitive to mood changes and do lots of things to help stay well such as exercise, meditation, seeing friends and eating healthily.

I have heard other people say they felt hormonal in the first trimester so if anyone has any experience of that and reassurance that it would be gratefully received!

Obviously I will be making an appointment with my GP and he knows my history and is brilliant. I have been feeling great for a long time now so it's a bit of a surprise not to feel ecstatic now I have such lovely news.

Best wishes to all of you and thanks for your support.

Love Jo

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ShrimpOnTheBarbie · 19/09/2010 11:16

Congratulations! I think it is a bit of a shock when it does happen, even if it is something you really want.

You don't mention a partner? Do you have support?

lucybrad · 19/09/2010 15:18

congrats. it can be a bit of an anticlimax because you wait for a BFP and when it finally comes you cant really get into it or celebrate because you darent tell anyone. its also a big worry, and you may well feel down because of the hormones.

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JoJo36 · 19/09/2010 15:43

Thanks for responding. Reassuring to read the posts.

Yes I have a partner and he is away but back tonight so we will discuss it fully then (had a brief phone chat about it when I was still in shock). He is very supportive and so are many people around me.

I think this forum is going to be great for support too so thank you for your time.

Jxxx

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Tinwe · 19/09/2010 17:21

Hi JoJo36

I understand how you feel. I found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago and still feel guilty that I'm not as overjoyed as most mums on here. My partner and I are both really pleased with the news but I'm feeling rotten physically as well as tired and emotional as well as worried about all that could go wrong so I suppose it's not surprising that I'm not "bouncier" about it! I'm sure you'll feel better when more people know and when you've had chance to talk to your partner and share the news properly. I've also heard that it doesn't feel real for many ladies until they see the scan so give yourself time and space to accept and adjust.

DetectivePotato · 19/09/2010 19:34

Congratulations and you will feel hormonal the whole time!

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JoJo36 · 21/09/2010 14:59

Thank you Tinwe,

I identify. I guess there's no right or wrong and time to accept and adjust is good like you say.

I feel much better now the news has sunk in a bit but I guess until the 12 week scan it's a bit of a limbo stage.

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amoney · 21/09/2010 15:09

congratualtions!

I think how you are feeling is quite normal for a lot of women. We had been TTC for a while and knew we really wanted a baby and yet i cried for about 3 whole days when i found out, i was actually terrified that we were pregnant!

your hormones will be all over the place, but with good support from hubby, friends and other mums-to-be etc you should be fine

I would say enjoy it, but if you are unlucky enough to be anything like me you probably won't (sickness, extreme tiredness, sciatica etc), and i've 17 weeks to go yet

lucielooo · 21/09/2010 16:14

Firstly, congratulations!

I think you get so used to peeing on a stick that says 'not pregnant' it's a real shock to get a positive test. I did mine in the middle of the night when I woke up needing the toilet originally planned to tell DP in the morning but started freaking out so woke him up to tell him - and like you this was also a very wanted baby!

As for feeling emotional - absolutely. Hve felt really volatile the last couple of months (am 11+1 now) Not just soppy tears, but crying myself to sleep at night with worry about everything and a lot of anger for some reason..but I hear this is not unusual. I've had to leave the house on one occasion and go for a long drive/walk cry somewhere just to being so angry about what's honestly nothing major. However the last few weeks I've really been trying not to let things wind me up because when they do I really seem to have no control over it and things must be settling down as over the last couple of weeks I have felt very calm, so it does seem to pass :)

The only things you can do is make sure your partner is fully aware of the emotional changes that might take place, be aware of them yourself so you know what's happening (it sounds like you're very aware anyway) and you are already doing all the right things to improve your mood so I am sure you will be fine! Don't worry too much if you aren't swinging from the curtains with excitement it's a lot to take in even without your hormones being all over the place!

Best of luck and congratulations again!

Northernlurker · 21/09/2010 16:19

Yes - if somebody said to you - tomorrow morning you will find out about a huge life change that will involve huge financial and emotional commitment, will change the way you look and do things for the rest of your life, will involve major hormonal upheaval and will happen on a set timescale that is without your control - well we'd all be gibbering wrecks in the corner wouldn't we?

Your reaction is normal - and in case you were wondering you WILL love your baby more than you can ever imagine. Congratulations.

QueenofDreams · 21/09/2010 16:19

It's totally normal! I felt like it with my (unplanned) first. I have felt the same way for my (planned) second, due in December. I know a lady that tried for 10 years, and had to have polyps removed in order conceive and yet when she finally got a bfp she said she felt terrified and thought 'what have we done?'

Don't worry about it, your body is going through enormous changes, it's only natural to have mixed feelings.

Justtrying · 21/09/2010 21:21

Hi All,
Glad i'm not the only one feeling a little strange, got a BFP this morning, after only ttc for a month. On hols with DH and whilst we both want this, just didn't expect it so soon. I think i'm 6+1 but delayed testing until now, as my cycle has been erratic only had implanon removed in July. Don't fly home til friday, doctors appointment booked for mon. Still trying to think how to break the news to parents that they are about to become Grandparents. I'm 36 but not sure how my mum will react, as she's always thought that i'm a career girl.

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JoJo36 · 22/09/2010 10:32

Justtrying - we got pregnant after the first month too which was a shock. I know it's great and we are very lucky it happened like that but it certainly spun my head off in many directions.

I read that adjusting to being Grandparents can take time as it can highlight ageing and various other issues so when I tell my parents I plan to keep my hopes high (that they are delighted) and my expectations low (just in case they go into shock like I did).

Thanks so much to everyone else. It is so lovely to log on and see people's responses. Makes me feel very emotional!!!

Northernlurker - so true!

xxx

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Cyclebump · 22/09/2010 11:20

I'm 28 but have been with my other half for 10 years. We've always wanted children and although it was a bit of a surprise to find we were pregnant I too have felt guilty for not feeling the all-consuming joy a lot of people seem to feel.

I AM happy and excited, but even though we're now in week 12 and have had our scan etc is still doesn't feel real and I still feel anxious. I'm hoping it's the hormonal thing!

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JoJo36 · 26/09/2010 18:46

Cyclebump, a friend of mine said she felt like that and then at 16 weeks it was like a switch flipped and she felt loads better.

I am going to try and keep that in mind thru what people seem to be saying is a homonal rollercoaster!

It doesn't feel that real to me either at times and I feel kind of anxious too.

Good luck and take care.

xxx

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CuppaTeaJanice · 27/09/2010 08:35

Hi JoJo36, and also Justtrying and anybody else who has just had a BFP,

Would you like to come and join us on the June 2011 Antenatal Club thread here?

We're building up a nice friendly group of Mumsnetters all due at about the same time! Would be great to see you there too so we can share our pregnancy experiences and support each other through the ups and downs of the next few months!!

Justtrying · 27/09/2010 12:05

Janice thank you very much for the invite but i'm due 19th may so will join the may group, i tested late as my cycle has always been a bit erratic and didn't want to jinx any thing.
Hope everyone is feeling well. oh parents were thrilled so seems everything is ok at present.
:)

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