Urgh, why do kids and partners need entertaining?

[Rocklover]

I am now facing the prospect of driving dd and dp to Dartmoor so that they can run around whilst I sit in the car at the vistor's centre feeling pregnant and sick.

Oh the joy! I hate weekends at the moment and yes I am officially a miserable cow.

lol poor Rocklover. The pregnant and sick card not working any more for you? I use it every time my OH makes a suggestion to do something I don't feel up to.

Can they not go on their own?

Well, dp doesn't drive and dd wants to go out so I feel like I have to. I am 21 weeks and still feeling sick all day and I haven't ventured out the last 2 weekends (last Sunday I was very poorly and nearly fainted, so was in bed all afternoon).

I feel like I have to take them somewhere or I am a shit fiancee and mother. Poor dd hasn't been anywhere (apart from school and swimming lessons) for the past 2 weeks. I also have the issue that I am peeing for England at the mo and so I really just like being tucked up at home.

Oh I've had the shit mother/wife guilt this whole pregnancy. Is DP mostly sympathetic to how you feel though?

Can you go out and take a book or an iPod or something? Is there a coffee shop at the visitor's centre? Can you keep cake down?

It's horrid, and crap you are still feeling sick. Don't feel guilty - you are growing a person :)

Go somewhere with a Cafe and loos like softplay
or to the leisure centre and dp can take dd swimming while you go to the cafe
or send them on the bus
he needs to step up IMO

Yes, we are going to Haytor which apparently has a carpark with loos and food hut. I will sit in the car and listen to the radio, luckily i have not been throwing up, just feeling horribly nauseous all day.

Dp is sympathetic and will get me food when I need it and look after dd (not his), but I can see he is climbing the walls at weekends. Just wish he could drive, but he doesn't ever want to, which I knew when we met, so I accept it.

Doesn't want to drive.. I'm 14 weeks pregnant now and today we're sending off for his provisional licence. He has till February to pass and become my taxi service :)

I don't know how you do it. There are some days already that I'm just not up to driving. becoming suddenly overcome with tiredness is scary business when you've places to go and people to see.

rocklover i did just that last week (went to dartmoor and stayed in the visitors centre/car whilst dh, mil, fil, and sil went for a walk. i'm 33 weeks)

there is a 'fun farming' computer game in the visitors centre (aimed at 8-10 year olds) that kept me entertained for a couple of hours and a lovley cafe accross the street.

hope you feel better soon

Well that was fun...not! We went to Haytor (loos, but no cafe, boo) and I nearly had a panic attack cos i felt shite!

So like a dick I decided to sit in the car and listen to the radio, yep...of course managed to run the fricking battery dead and we had to borrow jump leads from the ice-cream van lady and flag down a friendly fellow motorist to give us a jump start.

I'm staying in tomorrow. Grrrrrr!

Oh hideous for you. A day relaxing in bed tomorrow I think. Can you send DP and DD out for a long walk?

I can try it, sounds like a great idea. :)

Hey rocklover, hope you get a better day today, and a rest.

Were you sick this late with DD? I hope it goes soon.

He doesn't ever want to drive but he climbs the walls if his chauffeur is indisposed?

Twat.

Bumperlicious I have got off lightly with this pregnancy, all day nausea instead of puking and constant diahorrea with dd. I ended up in hospital for a week with her and was on Cyclizine til over 6 months pregnant.

So I am hoping that by 25 weeks I will feel better lol. Aww Skidoodly he would never have made me go out, but I am great at making myself feel guilty. In fact I have the world's biggest guilty conscience, if you look out of your window you can probably see it hanging in the sky over my flat.

LOL at your guilt complex, I am the same. I loathe being pg and generally feel shit the whole time. DH is great and especially these last few weeks has just done practically everything. He never makes me feel bad, but I manage well enough myself

That's how it is here, DP will do anything he can to help, but he does encourage me to get out when I can because it is good for me really.

He was very sweet yesterday, thanking me for him and dd having a lovely day because he knew it was really hard for me. And if I feel really poorly he will look after dd (who is not his), get me food/drink, cover me in a blanket etc. He is a godsend at times, especially as he doesn't mind tidying up etc when I don't feel up to it.

I felt pretty good this morning and had lovely tea and toast and now all of a sudden I feel crap again. I really hate pregnancy, it's awful and has started my bloody anxiety off again. Oh well, I'll live.

I'm sorry you are feeling like this rocklover. I really do sympathise though. I become so far removed from myself when pg that I don't think I could contemplate doing it again. It's definitely a means to an end for me. Plus the guilt is just so draining. I ended up on reduced hours at work (while still being on FT pay) and the guilt over how crap I was being was always there.

I really hope you reach the 'lull' bit of pregnancy soon, where you kind of feel a bit more human, before the hell that is the third trimester!

Bumperlicious, I am in awe of you working at all during pregnancy. I am not working as I moved area just after I fell pregnant and jobs are non existant round here, especially for preg ladies. However, I know I wouldn't be able to cope with working at the moment and that also makes me feel guilty.

This is my 2nd pregnancy and I want it to be my last, however, I am with my new dp (I am divorced from 5yo dd's dad) and it is his first child and I know he would like more.

But I am 36 now and suffer during pregnancy, I am terrified of doing it again, but I may just do if DP is very persuasive. Although just thinking about another pregnancy makes me feel sick lol.

Well, we've said 'never say never' but 9 months is a long time to be completely removed from yourself and to feel like shit. When you add on the stress of TTC and the recovery from labour etc. it's a year out of your life.

TBH work was a break from DD (3yo) so it wasn't too bad. I mostly just sat at desk and moped!

Feeling sick is really debilitating, I don't think anyone who hasn't suffered from it can understand. It's also very hard when people you know are telling you their wives played badminton right up until the day before they gave birth. This is just after I has stupidly cycled to work, felt so shit that I had to push my bike up the hill to the bike sheds, threw it in there and sat in the toilets and cried for half an hour!

As long as DP is sympathetic to how you feel, make sure you explain to him, and don't worry what anyone else is doing, just do what you can to get through the day :)

I know what you mean about perfect mums lol. I have a schoolfriend who has just had her first and sailed through the pregnancy with no sickness or problems and worked as well. To be fair she had a complicated birth, but she is on Facebook posting about how 6 wks post c-section she is going back to the gym to tone up (whilst saying she is lucky as she has no extra fat from preg).

She is a nice person, but I feel like a big fat failure in comparison that I am not able to do the same. It kind of saps the confidence a bit, although I am happy for her that things have gone so well.

Dp is very sympathetic and lets me get away with doing very little round the flat to be honest. In the week I do the school run, take dd to her swimming lesson on a Tuesday and that's about it going out wise. I make sure I do the washing up at least and DP and I share cooking duties, so I am grateful that he is so helpful.